Flying High: Sexy Stories from the Mile High Club [Review + Giveaway]

May 6th, 2014

Now, I’m not a member of the mile high club, but I think there’s something to be said for having sex on airplanes. Otherwise, why would so many people fantasize about it? I imagine it has something to do with being able to have sex with so many people around and not having them notice or, if it’s your thing, because you want them to notice. Perhaps the challenge of having sex in such a small place only makes the adrenaline run faster. Some people might rely on the release and reward of sex to calm their flying nerves or pass the time, which certainly seems to crawl by when you’re 30,000 feet above sea level with nothing but clouds out your window.

However, writing about sex on airplanes certainly presents another challenge. How do you make your story stand apart from those written by others? Indeed, I imagine that Rachel Kramer Bussel saw many similar themes, but the editor at Cleis Press was able to pull together enough stories to create an anthology that remains interesting and less than redundant. Although, I wouldn’t necessarily recommend reading the book in one sitting as it could become rather mundane.

Flying High does a good job of providing us with situations — strangers meeting on an airplane for sex, cybersex on airplanes, voyeurism, masturbation airlines and more — to keep things interesting. Many of the authors have added fantasy elements, which keep the stories in the book from being more of the same.

Like I said, I understand why sex on an airplane is appealing to some even though it’s not number one on my list of sexual acts to do. So I was pleasantly surprised when I opened the pages of this book and began enjoying it right off the bat. In fact the first story by Bill Kte’pe, one in which two couples who met online have arranged for a sexual rendez-vous in the sky, is one of the most memorable of the book. It helps the book take flight without a hitch. The surprise ending adds to the story in my opinion, but I won’t spoil it for you.

Like any anthology, not every story in Flying High was for more. I skipped over one or two completely. In some cases, the airplane is really almost inconsequential. In stories like “Top Banana,” being on an airplane and one operated by a specific airline creates a recurring theme. In that particular story, Craig Sorensen relies on the theme to craft an interesting story and colorful visuals with an ending that I didn’t quite see coming — no pun intended.

The style and skill of the authors in Flying High varies as much as the particular plots of the stories. Some were simply not to my liking, and others seemed a little inexperienced or lacking the subtlety that I think makes a good story. However, they all brought something different to the table. Flying High might not be a book that you reach for constantly, but it’s worth checking out if you have a thing for the mile high club, especially if you’re not quite bold enough to go there yourself.

In fact, I am proud to announce that I have partnered with Cleis Press to offer one of you visitors at Of Sex and Love the chance to win a copy of this book to peruse for yourself. All you have to do is use the PromoSimple widget below to get started. Make sure to come back every day for tweets and shares to get more entries!

This widget includes a poll about whether you’ve joined the mile high club. It’s not mandatory. I hope to show the results on this blog but it will be anonymous. Giveaway is open to USA and Canada.

Good luck!

Ends May 31!

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101 Vagina Giveaway

April 4th, 2014

41UOw-Y7VPL[1]I was rather impressed with the coffee table book, 101 Vagina, that I received to review. Now, maybe I am not a coffee table book person (actually, I have an ottoman that’s generally filled with electronics LOL), but it was a nice change of page.

I didn’t want to give too much away in my review. Otherwise, you wouldn’t read it, would you? But the experience of reading it was almost.. magical. That sounds a whole lot less pragmatic than I normally am, but there you have it.

In order to spread the word about this project, I have teamed up with the photography/creator to give one copy of 101 Vagina away to a reader at Of Sex and Love. All you have to do is fill out the form below.

Good luck!

Giveaway is open to US residents and ends May 4.

Don’t worry, though, if you don’t win. 101 Vagina is super affordable at less than $19 from Amazon.

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Lelo Gigi 2 Giveaway

February 5th, 2014

I asked if you guys were interested. You said, “Yes!” So here’s a giveaway for all my lovely readers.

I didn’t love the Gigi 2, which you can see in my initial review. I only warmed to it slightly in my followup review. However,  here’s a list of people who did love the vibrator.

Will you love the Gigi 2? Maybe. I think if you need a lot of G-spot stimulation and like angled toys such as Ella, then it’s worth giving it a try. Gigi 2 isn’t the most powerful vibe out there, even with an increase in power over the original Gigi. However, the shape might make up for this.

You may also like Gigi if you haven’t try any other Lelo toys before and, hey, this one is free! Maybe you want to see if you like toys that have multiple settings or if you like unique settings like the surprise me function.

Lelo Gigi 2

Lelo Gigi 2

For the full list of features, keep reading

  • G-spot tip
  • 100% more power than Gigi
  • 8 modes
  • 2 hours of use per charge
  • Waterproof
  • Lockable
  • Made of body-safe silicone
  • 1-Year LELO Warranty for Complete Peace of Mind

Of course, this also comes with a sample of Lelo lube, charging cable, storage pouch and Lelo’s famous packaging. The version you’ll be entering to win is the Deep Rose color as pictured. I’ll be shipping out my extra handled-but-unused Gigi 2.

All you have to do is use the entry form below. Return for daily entries like Facebook photo sharing, Tumblr reblogging and Tweeting.

Giveaway is open to US residents; ends March 5th. I will generate one winner randomly.

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Shhh Secret Society Lingerie Box Giveaway

January 14th, 2014

I’m happy to announce another giveaway sponsored by Shhh Secret Society. Last time, you guys had a chance to win a Wonderland vibrator. This time around, I’m hosting a giveaway for one of the Shhh Boxes. If you’re unfamiliar with these boxes, you can sign up for a single box or a monthly or quarterly subscription for a box full of lingerie — at least 8 pieces —  and goodies. The folks over Shhh work with consumers to get sizes and preferences, so each box you receive is one that you’re sure to love. You don’t have to believe me, though.  All of the boxes have positive reviews on the website. Previous customers have called the boxes and items in them “amazing,” “stunning” and “beautiful.” Everyone seems so pleased, and I am happy to provide one of my readers a chance to win the box. Shhh will work with you to provide you products in your size and style. When you’re picking your Shhh Lingerie Box, you can choose the style you’re looking for. Henry at Shhh has helped to create boxes with the following styles:

Shhh Lingerie Boxes Offer Plenty of Options

Shhh Lingerie Boxes Offer Plenty of Options

  • slutty
  • classy
  • modest
  • slimming

Slutty or risque styles are more revealing and form-fitting like the Anais Judy. Classy styles offer more coverage and are good if you want to leave a little more to the imagination. This sweetheart babydoll is an excellent example of the style. Perhaps you’re just getting into lingerie and you’re not sure how much skin you want to show. Classic and modest pieces such as these thigh highs might be one of the items in your lingerie box. If you want something slimming, you might go for a babydoll or a piece with ruching to hide trouble areas.

The above collage is just a few samples of what you might get in a lingerie box. Of course, the surprise is part of the fun. If you’re the winner of this giveaway, you can specify your style and the box will soon be on its way to you.

Use the widget below to enter. Remember to check back daily for entries such as Twitter, which you can do multiple times.

If you’re entering from the UK use a placeholder such as 11111 for zip code. I’ll get your postal code later if you’re the winner!

Good luck!

Giveaway ends February 2013. Open to US and UK residents. 

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Wonderland Vibrator Giveaway

October 22nd, 2013

Wonderland - The Heavenly Heart

The Heavenly Heart

With Halloween soon approaching, I thought one of the Wonderland vibes would make an awesome giveaway prize, and the kind folks over at Shhh have agreed to give on of my readers their own taste of Wonderland. (Side note: I found Once Upon a Time in Winderland too convoluted for my tastes. How ’bout you guys?)

So I thought this giveaway would be excellent given the time, and while I haven’t had a chance to use them, they look adorable. I don’t own too many novelty toys at this point — though, I’ve certainly love a nice tentacle dildo — but I’ve enjoyed the look of this line since the very start.

The Wonderland series has four models designs that represent characters or topics from

Shhh carries the first three on the list, all of which are available for £40. Each is a gentle vibrator that uses a single AA battery for power. The toys are waterproof and each have multiple functions.

If you want your chance to win one for free, use the widget below.

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Giveaway ends November 20.

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The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys Review + Giveaway

October 16th, 2013

It’s interesting that I’ve read Violet Blue’s blog on and off for years without reading anything of hers in print (well, I did read books that she’s edited). Now, I can add that to my to-done list, which is my version of a bucket list — only I add things that I’ve already done. The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys is intended to be the book about sex toys, the Bible of sex toys. I’m not quite sure that I’d swear an oath on this book, but I’d probably recommend it to most people.

If you’re not familiar with the author, her work or her expertise in the field, the forward by Charlie Glickman talks about her experience working for Good Vibes. You can also check out her blog here. Charlie, who has asides through the book, co-wrote the Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, which I really liked. Both the forward and the content of the book really dive right into the subject. It’s a no-nonsense approach that could maybe be a little more “inviting” by giving some stats about how many people enjoy sex toys of something of that nature. If you’re curious but not quite adventurous, you’ll get the gist that sex toys are fun, but this book might not be as reassuring as you’d like.

This doesn’t mean that the book isn’t useful however. On the whole, the things I had problems with were very specific and probably only bothersome to me because I do know as much as I do about sex toys. The gen– doesn’t mention not to use silicone The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys was just fine. Most people would be just fine if they followed the advice that I have to nitpick, and many people wouldn’t even notice what seemed like errors to me. You want examples? Okay!

Cons

  • Violent mentions water-based lube as the most common (true) but only discussed silicone-based lube as an aside. I saw no mention of not using it with silicone toys.
  • In the first chapter, which contains information about cleaning toys, Violet recommends antibacterial soap but doesn’t mention that soaps containing triclosan must remain on an item for 2 minutes to be effective
  • She also says that no clear silicone exists. While translucent toys typically are made of jelly/rubber/PVC, Jollies dildo are somewhat translucent.
  • Although she mentions wooden dildos, there was no mention given to any of them or brands like NobEssence. Um, what?
  • While she mentions vaginal balls, I don’t recall a specific naming of any brand or recommends about safety; i.e. don’t use disgusting balls with string connectors. Eww.
  • There’s no mention of the Liberator Throe, which I haven’t reviewed on this blog but still remains one of the most coveted items in my collection.
  • Violet spends a bit of time on camming as part of cybersex. I guess I don’t personally find this to be toy-y in my mind. Anyway, she talks about how webcams basically suck and that you have to buy them, ignoring the fact that almost all computers are equipped with a cam, and many phones have front-facing cameras. She then goes on to give a very specific HTML code about refreshing your website when showing your streaming cam but doesn’t say how to do that in the first place. Given the lack of relevant and timeliness, this entire section is unnecessary.

I did find it curious that every.single.time Violet mentioned a website or brand that I was not familiar with, the website no longer existed. This was the case with Luv Seat and Clear Ecstasy. The latter is a glass dildo maker and while I can find items from the company on retailers, they’re unimpressive and not what she was talking about. Similarly, Violet mentions a programmable vibrator by Je Joue, which I believe to be the predecessor to Sasi, which the company no longer makes. A little fact-checking would have gone a long way. This is especially true when you consider that this is the second version, which means it should specifically correct those errors.

I didn’t hate the book, however. It’s just much better suited to someone who couldn’t have written it. In fact, I found that there was very little information that isn’t freely available online, some of it even on Of Sex and Love.

Pros

  • Violet includes a section about risks of spreading diseases and infections through sharing sex toys, anal/oral and penetrative sex in the very last chapter. This might be the most useful representation I’ve yet seen of
  • The book is neither homophobic nor heteronormative. With general references to partners, gay and straight people alike will find it suitable for them.
  • The information about sex machines was definitely more than I knew before picking up this book — er, the PDF version, that is.
  • The same goes for USB toys, some of which you can actually have a partner control from their own computer. I had no idea about this before.
  • The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys walks you through the basics of toys, bringing them up to partners and a bit of anatomy to
  • Of course, you can skip any chapter and go right where you need to be. Sol while I might bitch about something, I don’t need to read it.
  • At just shy of 150 pages and being an easy read, you can finish the full thing in less than 2 hours!

So, if that’s piqued your interest at all, you’ve come to the right place. I am happy to an announce..

The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys Giveaway

One reader will get to try out this book to see whether they find it amusing, entertaining or otherwise useful for holding up the corner of that coffee table. Simply follow the prompts in the widget below to enter!

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Giveaway ends October 23 and is open to US residents only. I am not responsible for prize fulfillment.

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Revive EnerG Review and Giveaway

October 11th, 2013

I just got off the phone with Cinnamon, and we laughed as I said that I didn’t need another G-spot vibe. I really don’t. At this point, it either works or it doesn’t. I could sum up all my reviews in two or three words if I really wanted to.

Except for this one. What makes the EnerG the exception? I’m going to guess it’s the dual motors and the specific patterns that my G-spot seems to respond to, but let me backup.

It’s yellow. Bright freakin’ yellow with a tinge of green. It’s a brighter version of the pistachio green than my new Layaspot came in. It’s exactly the type of color for someone who hates pink. Also, I kinda like the box with its greens and purples. It’s modern, but it could do without the forever-happy chick laughing on the side. If you took that away, I’d really like the packaging, which is recyclable and easy for me to forget about.

One thing that I didn’t forget about was the bag it comes with. It’s this super smooth microsuede type fabric with bright yellow ribbons to cinch it. However, after I popped the vibrator into the bag for a few days, there were dark spots on the silicone when I pulled it out. It’s like wearing a brand new pair of jeans that turn your legs blue. It doesn’t mean you can’t use it, but it certainly makes the vibrator less pretty to look at as you can see in the picture below. I have a leper vibe, now.

The newer vibes do not ship with this bag for this very reason, though.

Dye spots on the Energ

Dye spots on the EnerG

 

This is also a good shop of the design of the toy. There’s a G-spot curve and a silver band toward the base, which gives it a rather attractive appearance overall in my opinion. It’s not a gigantic vibrator by any means. It’s 7.5-inches long overall, with about 5 inches are insertable. The vibe curves and flattens out in different ways. Toward the base, it’s flatter — think the Minna Ola — and about 2 inches wide, though you may not fully insert the toy at this point. The G-spot curve is narrower across but about 1.5 inches wide through the front and back.

I found it comfortably filling. The silicone, while flexible, has a density that lends to this sensation. The curve worked well for me, and it was easy to use. The red backlight under the buttons, which have audible and tactile feedback, makes them super easy to see. You could almost use it as a flashlight in the dark.

One button powers it on, the other cycles through settings. Blush describes this as having seven functions. There’s a high and low steady vibration from both the motors — the one in the tip and the around the silver band. There’s usually three settings on vibes, so keep this in mind. They are of medium strength but quite buzzy. The other five settings are a slow pulsation, long pulsation, fast pulsation, a pulsation back and forth between the two motors and fast pulsation of both motors.

The regular pulsation is pretty typical, and the single motor isn’t impressive by itself. While I didn’t enjoy the steady vibration from both vibes simultaneously, my G-spot really responded to the back-and-forth sensation. I found myself squirting more forcibly and.. with more length than I ever have. It was a surprising but fun shock.

I can’t make any promises for anyone else, but with a price of just over $60, this rechargeable vibrator is quite the deal. When it comes to charging, there’s a port on the bottom and a thick cover that protects it from water. The charger that this comes with is USB, and it comes with its own adapter. I am liking USB-powered vibes.

With that said, one of the readers at Of Sex and Love will have a chance to win their very own EnerG. Good luck!

Revive EnerG Giveaway

Follow the prompts in the widget below to enter. I’ll contact the randomly-generated winner for shipping information. I am not responsible for prize fulfillment.

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Giveaway is open to US and international residents where shipping is allows and ends November 10.

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