I know that I shouldn’t respond this way but when someone talks about her boyfriend, her fiance, her husband, her partner, and all she has to say is that he’s a good guy, I expect a “but.”
Because being a good person is good. I mean, the word “good” is directly there. However, it just sounds so.. lackluster. Like they’re talking about a piece of furniture and not the person that they are committed to in a long-term relationship.
I want to hear about how a person feels and what that person means to them. Is he good to you? Does he make your heart pitter-patter? Is the sex amazing? I am logical in every other avenue of life, but I just can’t be when it comes to love.
There is a logical part of me that understands contentment and reliability, but I don’t think that I could ever personally settle for that.
Perhaps it is all semantics. Perhaps these people are more reserved than I tend to be when describing how someone makes me feel. It could just be that they aren’t used to talking about themselves or perhaps they don’t want to bore me with the details, but I like details. I like specifics, and I don’t enjoy vagueness or put-on “mystetery”.
Maybe I want to hear a person’s smile in their voice when they tell me about their partner and all about how happy they are. I have no poker face. What you see is what you get, and my heart is on my sleeve. I don’t understand people who don’t operate like that. Nor do I think that I would ever want to. Because it makes people happy when I am happy and sad when I am sad and, yes, maybe a little annoyed when I am over-the-top in love. But there’s never any doubt that the person I love is more than a good guy — he’s the best I could want!
yes, I hate it when my woman makes me into one of her Girlfriends or a “good guy” as you call it. Rather be
a) lover
b) the man she’d cheat on me for
c) Mr. Badass
d) bastard sometimes
e) good guy who ties her up and spanks her when she is NOT good
Sounds like you enjoy the passionate descriptions, too!
I think we tend to expect the word “but” to follow because traditionally it does. It’s used as a justification for something the person is at odds with.
“He’s a good guy, but I hate that he watches porn all day, but he’s a good guy.”
“I don’t really find him attractive, but he’s a good guy and that’s what matters.”
I think I need to work on my own descriptions beyond the lackluster as well.
That’s a good point, too.