My husband is not what I would consider an avid sex toy connoisseur. Sure, I’ve cuffed him up, tied him down, blinded his eyes, licked lubes and powders from his body, flogged him, tickled him with vibrators and slid sleeves and rings on his cock and, for the most part, he’s been a willing participant. Still, none of those things were ever his idea and none of those toys were ever his choices. It’s not that I don’t allow it. In fact, I try to get him involved on a frequent basis. I ask him if he wants to try this or that or I pick out a group of toys that would be good for both of us and let him make the final decision but he’s just not that into my sex toys.
For starters, he’s not really familiar with them. It seems like a big ol’ world out there and he doesn’t know where to go. Actually, that’s a cheap excuse because, with our experience together, he probably knows more about a variety of items than some people ever will. If he paid attention, at least. Which he doesn’t. Perhaps he’s just too overwhelmed to pay attention or perhaps it’s just not his thing. Therein lies the heart of the issue.
When it comes to sex toys, he uses a label for himself that I would never apply to him; neither would you, did you know him. He says he’s old fashioned. The first time I heard it, I nearly had a heart attack. My husband, old fashioned? My husband, old fashioned? Surely not the video game loving, black metal listening, internet surfing, iTouch owning husband of my own! I hadn’t even considered that sex toys might not be his thing but, there you have it, he’s too old fashioned.
To be perfectly fair, not all of the toys we’ve tried have rocked his world. We’d tried a number of cock rings which were too loose, too flimsy, too hair-pully, too tight or too underwhelming. To be even fairer, there’s definitely a larger market for woman oriented toys than there is for couple oriented, nonBDSM toys (excluding pegging) so it’s really no wonder why “our” collection is really my collection. Still, it’d be nice if he could see another cock ring as something for us as opposed to something for me.
With that said, I went ahead and requested to review a grenade masturbator because he thinks it’s totally awesome. Maybe that will change his mind.
My spouse is not into my sex toys to play with per/se, but he is fascinated by them. He always asked if I got anything new today. He has played with them ON me, but he’s not into playing with them for himself. The only thing he uses of mine is all my good lube. So I guess he’s old fashioned as well, and his hand is the only toy he needs. To be fair, there isn’t much interesting out there for men, unless they are into anal or prostate play. I did get him a sex doll with a squishy cyberskin vagina which he tried, but the texture grossed him out, so he never tried anything like that again. A grenade masturbator might be fun though. Hope your husband likes it!
After all my experience with rabbits, he really wants to take one apart but that’s not the playing I had in mind. Haha!