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November 4th, 2008

For years I have been interested in BDSM and have read books as well as countless pages online. I visited chat rooms and became involved in discussions, even attended online events. Immediately, I knew myself to be a dominant but I struggled with this. I have been in a vanilla relationship since about the time I discovered BDSM so I have no had a chance to experiment as much as I would like. Although my marriage has room for some BDSM elements, I am not sure my husband is the person who would be the best submissive for me.

This lack of experience has led me to doubt myself. Am I really a dominant? Could I even be? For a while I wondered if I were a switch but, then, I realized I am not. There is nothing in me that is submissive. However, I respect submission and those who feel that and I can only imagine how enthralling it would be. It’s just not for me.

Lately I have again been considering the part of myself which is attracted to BDSM and I began to doubt once more. I am not entirely sadistic. What’s more, I am more masochistic than one would typically consider a dominant. Again, I wondered “could I be a switch?”

I think I have been uncomfortable with my interest in BDSM because I could not find my place in it. I also think that I will be able to do so in the future. I visited a few places online and while many communities focus on the sadistic Dominant and masochistic submissive, a few places recognize the many shades of grey within BDSM. It was here where I read the words of other Dominants like me who had no desire to submit but who still enjoyed pain and sensation.

I love sensation. I love feeling silks and furs and creamy body washes on my skin. I like the idea of being bound, sometimes. I just don’t want to person who is providing me with such sensations to do so in any way which suggests they are in control.

I have a dominant personality and require the best submissive for me to top while still relinquishing control. And that’s okay with me.

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Are you ready to get WET?

November 3rd, 2008

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It’s all coming back to me now

October 29th, 2008

We’ve had sex a bit more recently than usual this week, for which I am grateful. I think we so often don’t have enough time or I’m waiting for the mood to be just right – what I do for everything ,not just sex – and it just doesn’t happen. We enjoyed his days off by being romantic and intimate. I have missed closeness, rather than just having sex. It has been very pleasureable. We also tried out a few new implements on the bedroom including some basic cock and ball rings and Kama Sutra’s Raspberry Kiss Honey Dust (Wow!). Both really added to the experience and I think he is now more open to the idea of more toys and such in the future which is just awesome.  It seems like a spark has been reignited and I’m not sure I even noticed it was out!

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I Rub My wormie

October 26th, 2008

I Rub My Wormie, just plain Wormie from here on out, is satisfying but does not live up to its intended use which I see as a design flaw.

The Wormie, the lesser known but certainly not lesser cousin of the I Rub My Duckie by Big Teaze Toys, arrived in a frustrating plastic blister pack and, of course, I had to struggle with it to get it out. (Perhaps a more ecofriendly box might be a better choice?) Once that battle was won, things steadily improved. I thought that the cardboard packaging which displayed the Wormie on a log with leaves in the background was a cute touch. Wormie sent an invitation asking “Your leaf or mine?” One thing I also thought was a great use of packaging; the paperboard display on which Wormie arrived unfolds to display instructions and information. I really like like because it doesn’t waste extra paper but I missed it the first time through and I suspect others may as well.

The packaging outlined Wormie’s features including its “easy grip, multi-textured body” as well as “soft2touch skin,” which is a soft outer covering of the toy that is free of pthalates, PVC and Latex. The package also recommends that this toy be used with a water based lubricant so I suspect that there is more than just plastic in this Wormie – specifically silicone. Additionally, Wormie’s neck has an “ergonomic bend to reach those (G)reat spots.”

I Rub My Wormie is a multi-speed vibrator powered by 2 C batteries, which I would have proffered were included as I had to buy them especially for this product. The battery pack originally contains a plastic sheet which needs to be removed and the cap – the end of the tail – fits on tightly when batteries are inserted.

I really felt I was in for a treat.

Unlike a real worm, the Wormie is cute and quite large. Some may find the adorable face on this not-so-little guy a bit disturbing but I definitely found it cute and this unique design makes it more of a discreet toy. Wormie is also pretty large which actually inhibited my play a bit. The Wormie is quite impressive with his 8 inch length and 2 inch diameter.

The vibrations were also quite strong, making this toy perhaps the strongest in my collection. However, with only 2 speeds, more variation would be nice. I wish there had been an in between level of stimulation because I felt the higher level was too strong; it made my hand uncomfortable to hold it but the lower level was a little lacking. Still, the vibrations added more to my experience than vibration tends to do with most toys.

An extra feature was Wormie’s little feet. There are 2 rows on them on the bottom totaling at least a couple dozen. This felt very pleasurable rubbing against my labia and clit. I originally did not put much stock into the feet but was surprised at the element they added.

However, I think Big Teaze Toys may have gone a little overboard with this one. Wormie’s bulbous head, which is supposed to stimulate the G-spot, was so large that I could barely insert it even when I had it lubed up enough that I could barely maintain a grasp on the toy. I tried insertion in the shower and dry to no avail. I’m not sure if anyone can successfully insert the Wormie! The little insertion I managed was very uncomfortable. Because g-spot stimulation is a selling point, I think the design falls a little short. I would perhaps make the neck flexible or even straight and make the head the same size as the rest of the body.

Speaking of the rest of the body, it seemed the perfect size for insertion and I even tried it out that way. Of course, the on and off switches are at the end of the tail so this idea didn’t work so well but I liked using the head as a handle.

I had the most success using Wormie on my clit, with his head between my legs and feet against my skin. The head felt similar to oral sex when I moved it and because it was bigger than many clitoral stimulators, the pressure felt great. As I mentioned, the vibrations were pretty powerful so I generally stayed on the first level. I liked using Wormie’s tail as a handle because the vibrations weren’t making my hand uncomfortable. I believe the motor is located around the neck so I had a little buffer for my hand.

Although satisfied by the Wormie as a clit toy, I am a little puzzled about one aspect of the massager. Because the package recommends a water based lube and I suspect the Soft2Touch Skin may be silicone, I wonder how insertion is supposed to happen in a wet environment. Water dissolves waterbased lubricants and I certainly had a harder time even attempting insertion in the shower. Nevertheless, the Wormie held up very well in the wet conditions and I felt the battery compartment was very snug.

While I can forgive Wormie for not working as a vaginal toy because he feels so nice on my clit, I am a little annoyed by the amount of noise he makes. Wormie is loud. On the low speed, this waterproof vibrator can be dully heard through a closed door. You may be able to get away with it if no one is listening in. However, it’s clearly audible through a closed door on the high speed and you won’t be able to hide your Wormie time from anyone! One other annoyance is that you can actually hear the batteries jostling around inside Wormie’s body which makes it even noisier.

Lastly, I think the button position could use a little work. When using Wormie through my clothes to stimulate my vulva and clit, I found that I accidentally turned him off more times than once. It’s a little frustrating for the toy to all of a sudden stop working. Ironically, when I want to turn him on and off, I sometimes have difficulty pressing the switch. Perhaps some sort of digital or electronic button would be better than the switch beneath the skin. Furthermore, I actually found myself unscrewing the battery compartment when I held on to Wormie’s tail in some positions. I think this whole area could use a little work.

Despite his flaws, I am happy with my new buddy. I will continue to use the I Rub My Wormie as a clit stimulator and enjoy his soft skin, feet and vibrations even if the Wormie is a little loud and doesn’t work quite as intended.

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Trust is Key in Any Relationship..

October 23rd, 2008

Edenfantasys - the sex shop I trust

− A Safe &Sexy Store With Savvy Staff!

Adriana

Even with your adult toy store. That’s why EdenFantasys is the sex shop I trust and for a limited time they’re hosting a campaign and contest where users can spread the word and be entered to win $250 cash.

Feel free to check out my post on their forum. If you haven’t already, sign up so you can see what the fuss is all about (and comment on my thread!)

Here’s just a little snippet about why EF makes me a very happy customer:

“I especially like the articles regarding sex toy materials which outline health and safety, both mine and that of my toys. Safety is also stressed on individual product pages where you can see a material safety guage and click on it to view more in depth information. Furthermore, EF just took a very proactive approach to safety by removing products such as anal numbing gels from their site.”

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Cup n Cradle

October 22nd, 2008

Cup N Cradle
Cup N Cradle
$32from Wild in Secret

I love dual stimulators, having mostly used rabbits and wanting to expand my repertoire, I decided to try the Cup N Cradle. It’s a reasonably priced and unique looking toy so I gave it a shot. The Cup ‘n Cradle is really the first of its type to grace the market. With it knobby G-spot stimulator stemming from the cradle-shaped clitoral stimulator which rests against your clit with its many soft finger-like protrusions, the Cup N Cradle is certainly different from any of dual stimulation vibrator, let alone the traditional vibe! With a remote attached by wire and a vibrator bullet, the Cup N Cradle certainly seems inviting and its small size is perfect for even a first timer. Did I mention it’s made completely of a soft, semi-transparent jelly?

This toy is 100% fool proof. Slip the G-spot stimulator into your vagina and the clitoral stimulator will cover a wide surface area around your clit to give you increased pleasure over other, smaller clitoral stimulator. Slide the button on the remote up and you will feel pleasurable vibrations wash over your most sensitive spots. Grasp the toy as its base and apply pressure and movement to your heart’s desire.

However, while the toy may be wonderful in theory, is falls short in application. I found that the jelly material, the position of the bullet vibrator and the controls all were lacking in some way and this prove detrimental to the experience.

Although the Cup N Cradle is powerful for such a small unit, it’s best to always use it with fresh batteries. Batteries anything less than new will provide a less intense vibration, as with many toys. With a new pair of AAs, the Cup N Cradle was too strong for me to use at top speed. It was most comfortable somewhere in the middle.

While a strong vibrator is generally a positive thing, the location of the bullet meant most of the vibrations were concentrated on my hand rather than my clitoris or G-spot. In fact, while the bullet did stimulate my clitoris, the vibrations were non-existant when it came to the G-spot stimulator. Many of my sessions were cut short because my hands were so irritated from tkaing the brunt of the vibrations. Needless to say, I was not an orgasmically happy camper on these occassions.

One of the most noticeable aspects of the toy is its soft jelly material. For anyone who likes their toys soft and closer to the ‘real thing,’ the Cup N Cradle might be right up their alley and it definitely allows for a lot of flexibility. It especially feels nice over the clitoris and the surrounding area with the tiny nubs rubbing against flesh. The cradle provides a unique suction to the skin which is quite pleasurable.

However, I have found that the jelly material of this toys is, perhaps, too soft. I cannot achieve the desired pressure that I need to easily orgasm with such a soft toy. This is especially a problem when it comes to achieving the pressure that many women need on their G-spot, especially when the vibrations are so weak in that part of the toy.

Also, the sliding control leaves much to be desired. I’m not sure if all sliding controls are so ineffective, but the Cup N Cradle did not have nearly the range of vibration intensity that I expected after several uses. It seems that somehow the slider had loosened up requiring that the button be slid nearly 3/4 of the way up before the vibrator even turned on, greatly reducing the range of vibrations. At this point, the Cup N Cradle is vibrating at almost full force. However, if I press the slide down forcefully with my fingers, I can make Cup N Cradle turn on at a lower setting. This does not make for a relaxation experience.

Futhermore, the slider does not allow the vibrations to increase gradually and smoothly. Instead, the vibrations increase in a rather jerky manner which can be a bit distracting. I would prefer a remot with digital buttons or another type of technology which offer more precise control over the vibrations of the toy.

Overall, the Cup N Cradle isn’t bad. With a little patience and practice, it can be quite the diligent helper when it comes to achieving orgasm, espcially with its strong vibrations and wide coverage of the clitoral area. However, the Cup N Cradle would be improve with a more rigid material, better bullet placement and controls which are smoother and more precise.

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The Review Revue

October 21st, 2008

You can see my newest review of at EdenFantasys for the Pleasure Pearls vaginal balls. EF is only one of the companies I’ve worked with to provide reviews. I’ve also be posting a review for the I Rub my Wormie sponsored by Vibrator.com. I am looking forward to working with Babeland, shortly. They are so immensely well known in the sex toy business and for good reason!

At this point, I am very proud to say that I’ve had wonderful experiences with all of these sites. They’re treated me professionally, something which is a must when dealing with a potentially tricky subject. I hope to continue working with them and maybe even others in the near future.

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