Sexuality and Gender

March 15th, 2009

A post on the Ef forums got me to thinking. The author seemed to suggest that because that the community members were obviously interested in sex (it is a sex toy forum, afterall) then we must also be interested in gender, as though the 2 are mutually inclusive.  Now, maybe I am the odd duck out and maybe I just don’t spend a whole lot of time considering gender because I fit into the definition without turmoil but sex and gender just don’t have a lot to do with one another. Yes, I have a gender and I have sex as do my husband but that’s about where it stops.

Nevertheless, I’d like to know how everyone else feels? do sexuality and gender go hand in hand? Do you see a lot of voerlap in the subjects? Or are you of the same mind as me?

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And the winner is..

March 13th, 2009

Beautiful Dreamer! Congrats!

Her winning comment was pretty inconspicuous. 😉

Lovely choice. 🙂

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We have a winner!

March 11th, 2009

I bet you’re all curious to know who? Well, just wait and see!

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Totally Fuckable Tuesday

March 10th, 2009

marinedressblues

The Marines. Yes, all of them.

For starters, they definitely have the best dress uniform of all the American Armed Forces (and this is coming from a girl who doesn’t necessarily love a man in uniform). Attention to detail is evident from the design of the uniform to the way it’s worn; nothing is overlooked. They look sharp and it’s a shame I have not seen more of them in person. And I think the members of the US Marine Corps know it. On top of that, they’re taught to hold themselves in a certain way. They stand tall, they stand straight, they stand strong – becoming the very image of masculinity and strength.

US Marine Corps

And, hey, fighting for our country doesn’t hurt either!

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Pleasurists #19

March 10th, 2009


Image by GuilleDes used under a Creative Commons License

Pleasurists is your round-up of the adult product reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #18? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #20? Submit it here before Sunday March 15th at 11:59pm PST. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.

Want to win some free swag? All you’ve got to do is enter.

On to the reviews…

Editor’s Pick

The second I saw them a fantasy bloomed, large and dark, in the recesses of my mind.

I had images of formalwear and candlelight, gourmet meals and decadent desserts. A meal served silently, these dainty pearl cuffs binding my wrists. Images of kneeling at his feet, being hand fed bits of his meal and sips of his wine – the pearl cuffs wrapping my wrists, hands helplessly still in my lap.

Madame Editrix
Scarlet Lotus Sexgeek

Vibrators

Dildos

Anal Toys

Toys for Cocks

Lube/Massage Oil/Bath Stuff

BDSM/Fetish

Adult Books/Games

Adult Movies/Porn

Storage

Miscellaneous

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Kama diva Small Bubble Plug

March 9th, 2009

Kama Diva Small Bubble Plug

While the Kama diva Small Bubble Plug  is no longer available, you might try the Tantus Perfect Plug, Fun Factory B-balls, or the FemmeFunn plug if you want a toy with a similar bulbous shape.

The Kama Diva Small Bubble Plug is a cute little anal plug and its small size (Kama Diva offers larger plugs in the same line as well) was appealing. I thought I could take something larger than my first plug but didn’t want to go too large. The swirled pink and white are very feminine and pretty while the hard, urethane material of this plug provides little resistance upon insertion. With its tapered head which flares out to a rounded “bubble” and wide base, I thought this would provide interesting sensations without having to worry about it going where I didn’t want it.

Don Wands provides a fluffy, pillow sac with the Kama Diva Small Bubble Plug so that’s just one less thing to worry about. Should I accidentally drop this toy it will be safe, as long as it’s in its sack. I’m not exactly sure what would happen if I dropped this as my understanding of urethane is a little weak. I know it’s similar to hard plastic and almost looks like opaque glass. In fact, I thought it was glass at first. The urethane also had a slightly scent when I first opened the toy. It was rather unpleasant but quickly washed away. I don’t know if this toy can be sterilized with an alcohol solution but I’ve cleaned it with soap and water and it can easily be dried without worry of the Kama Diva Small Bubble Plug picking up lint.

Although this is not a huge plug, the rigid material may make it feel larger than anal plugs made of more giving materials like silicone or jelly. It measures at a length of 4 1/4″, 4″ of which are insertable and at its widest point, the Kama Diva Small Bubble Plug has a 4″ circumference. The base is also listed as “oversized.”

Unfortunately, so is my ass. LOL And this is where the issue came in. I was able to easily insert the first tapered part of this anal plug easily. In fact, I probably used a little too much lube and it became too slippery and hard to work with. I used the sample packet of Wet Platinum which came with the plug and was disappointed at how thin it is. I also felt a bit of discomfort which I think is from the lube itself (I’ve had issues with Wet’s Platinum Silicone based lube in the past). I would recommend any thicker water or silicone based lube over Wet Platinum.

I rinsed off the Kama Dive Small Bubble Plug and tried again with just lube on myself and insertion went better. However, I ran into problems because both the large base and my butt were trying to take up the same room and I wasn’t able to insert the plug fully. Inserted just to the first indentation, this plug kept slipping out and it seemed like there was just no way for me to use it.

Unfortunately, I was just never able to get to the point where I could start playing with other toys, insertable or otherwise, and I can’t really judge how comfortable this would be. Judging from it’s material, I wouldn’t wear it for long amounts of time like you can with some silicone or jelly plugs because it’s not giving in the least.

Nevertheless, I think this is a decent plug. I think it’s just not the plug for me given my specific anatomy (AKA well endowed back end LOL). I think if the Kama Diva Small Bubble Plug had a much longer neck and/or a smaller base, I would have been able to use it fine. Although I can’t say for sure, I think the Kama Diva Teardrop Plug might have been a better choice because it has only one “bubble” and the neck seems longer. Sadly for me, both plugs I have tried have been a little uncomfortable or difficult to use because of the base so my anal play might have to venture in the direction of probes or beads in the future.

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Sorry all!

March 7th, 2009

I know things have been slow here as of late and it’s because I’ve had company the past week or so and it’s just not polite to pull out those dildos and vibrators in front of company (well, in front of most company LOL). I’m also planning a trip next week – hopefully – but I will try to post a few reviews before I leave.

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