A post on the Ef forums got me to thinking. The author seemed to suggest that because that the community members were obviously interested in sex (it is a sex toy forum, afterall) then we must also be interested in gender, as though the 2 are mutually inclusive. Now, maybe I am the odd duck out and maybe I just don’t spend a whole lot of time considering gender because I fit into the definition without turmoil but sex and gender just don’t have a lot to do with one another. Yes, I have a gender and I have sex as do my husband but that’s about where it stops.
Nevertheless, I’d like to know how everyone else feels? do sexuality and gender go hand in hand? Do you see a lot of voerlap in the subjects? Or are you of the same mind as me?
Ummm… assuming you’re speaking of my post about pronouns (?)
Actually, it wasn’t my intention to suggest that a community interested in sex is interested in discussing gender issues – it was more that I really had no idea how to write about my FTM partner in my reviews. The logistics can be frustrating.
I generally see sex and gender as exclusive of each other, unless I am writing about a sexual experience with someone who doesn’t fit into the binary male/female categories. When I write about those experiences, sex and gender are connected because I want to insure the gender of my partner is correctly identified out of respect to him.
Honestly though – gender was something I didn’t really consider much until I found myself involved in this relationship. Now gender is a subject of daily discussion in my world because it really is something we have to deal with daily.
I hope that clarifies…at least some. I know I ramble and sometimes the point gets lost. 🙂
Actually, it was not any comments of yours of which I was thinking when I posted this. However, it was a reply in that thread which seemed to indicate as such.
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must go re-read other comments. 🙂
I’ll have to read it – but my opinion is that sex and gender are generally exclusive. However when sex involves gender issues then it’s a different story. You’re discussing the how, why, where, when, what’s of gender in sex.
Does that explain it well??