Yesterday I posted my review on the Nexus G-Rider which didn’t work out for me at all. I definitely thought it would be better as a male toy. I felt pretty sheepish when Epiphora said it’s meant to be a prostate toy and even the box said that. After my husband awoke I check. Sure enough, it says Male G-spot toy. I let Christina over at TabuToys know, thinking she might want to change the listing but then she sent me the link to Nexus’ own listing of the G-rider which says it’s for “male and female use”. They even go so far as to say it’s “guaranteed to hit all the right buttons for men and women.” So Nexus, which is it? Males only? Both? Or something in the middle?
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Move It Or Lose It
November 4th, 2009
Last night I am lying in bed and I am paging through sexual fantasies in my head, expanding some of them more than they have been expended before and I find I’m horny. I want sex but my husband has already been asleep for several hours. I ponder making a move but I don’t know what move I want to make. I don’t just want to make him up and say “Hey, want sex?” but I also don’t know what will wake him up and send the right message. So I toss and turn for a few hours until I cannot possibly stay away and longer and fall into a fitful sleep.
In a similar position, what is your foolproof move? Or, assuming you’re asleep and open to your partner making an advance, how would you like it done?
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The Truth About Santa
November 4th, 2009
Is that he is Babeland. Now you know! And Santa, I mean Babeland, is having a holiday contest where lucky folks can win all the items listed in their Objects of Desire page.
Dear Babeland,
The object I most desire and would love this Christmas is the Form 6. I have lusted over it for, literally, years but it’s just a bit out of my price range. Everyone seems to love it so and I’m sure I would, too, given the chance. I have yet to own a sleek, rechargeable toy and the Form 6 is definitely one of the sleekest! I know we’d enjoy eachother for years to come.
I’d like to think I’ve been quite nice this year, too! I’ve given my husband many-a massage and even got him his first masturbator, too. I waited (suffered?) patiently (well, sort of) during his deployment and we missed out on most of our important dates (my birthday, Valentine’s Day and our anniversaries). The Form 6 would be an amazing gift for one of the few holidays we will be able to spend together this year!
Hopefully,
Adriana
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He’s Just Not That Into Your Sex Toys
October 30th, 2009
My husband is not what I would consider an avid sex toy connoisseur. Sure, I’ve cuffed him up, tied him down, blinded his eyes, licked lubes and powders from his body, flogged him, tickled him with vibrators and slid sleeves and rings on his cock and, for the most part, he’s been a willing participant. Still, none of those things were ever his idea and none of those toys were ever his choices. It’s not that I don’t allow it. In fact, I try to get him involved on a frequent basis. I ask him if he wants to try this or that or I pick out a group of toys that would be good for both of us and let him make the final decision but he’s just not that into my sex toys.
For starters, he’s not really familiar with them. It seems like a big ol’ world out there and he doesn’t know where to go. Actually, that’s a cheap excuse because, with our experience together, he probably knows more about a variety of items than some people ever will. If he paid attention, at least. Which he doesn’t. Perhaps he’s just too overwhelmed to pay attention or perhaps it’s just not his thing. Therein lies the heart of the issue.
When it comes to sex toys, he uses a label for himself that I would never apply to him; neither would you, did you know him. He says he’s old fashioned. The first time I heard it, I nearly had a heart attack. My husband, old fashioned? My husband, old fashioned? Surely not the video game loving, black metal listening, internet surfing, iTouch owning husband of my own! I hadn’t even considered that sex toys might not be his thing but, there you have it, he’s too old fashioned.
To be perfectly fair, not all of the toys we’ve tried have rocked his world. We’d tried a number of cock rings which were too loose, too flimsy, too hair-pully, too tight or too underwhelming. To be even fairer, there’s definitely a larger market for woman oriented toys than there is for couple oriented, nonBDSM toys (excluding pegging) so it’s really no wonder why “our” collection is really my collection. Still, it’d be nice if he could see another cock ring as something for us as opposed to something for me.
With that said, I went ahead and requested to review a grenade masturbator because he thinks it’s totally awesome. Maybe that will change his mind.
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Time and Time Again
October 24th, 2009
I have problems with time. I don’t always prioritize it right and I’m horrible at guessing just how much time something will take. I frequently make informal schedules in my mind, a checklist of things to do today and the next thing I know, it’s tomorrow and I didn’t achieve half of those things because I let time get away. What’s even worse is that, instead of stopping and shelving those projects for another day I simply stay up until they’re all completed; this is why I have absolutely no routine whatsoever. I push myself until I’m so dead tired I cannot accomplish anything more then need to sleep half a day away to fix the effects of it.
Needless to say, sex doesn’t fit into my non-schedule. Just the other day I was thinking how difficult it is for us to have sex at all when my husband works. It’s a bit better now because he has new hours. His 12 hour days are only 12 hours as opposed to the 14 he used to work. He can stay up a little later, now, instead of coming home with just enough time to watch some TV while he eats, check his e-mail, shower and head to bed once more. Now I have a bit more time to get in the mood but it still doesn’t happen nearly as often as we’d both like. I think we’re down to maybe once a week when I’d like to have sex more like 3 or 4 times a week. In fact, I will sit down and think about how we’re not having sex..
And then I realize I’m sitting at the computer or reading in bed or he’s playing video games or we’ve somehow managed to waste a couple hours fighting and then I know that, no matter how shitty his schedule is, we’re equally at fault for not planning to have sex. I know I need to, I just don’t. It’s hard for me to up and go into the bedroom. Even if I want to, I just don’t get turned on at the drop of a hat and I know it’s frustrating for him ’cause he does. But planning can sometimes make it even harder to get where I need to be mentally, especially because I like sex to be spontaneous. And planning itself is hard when you have such a complete lack of schedule like I do.
I suppose it comes down to this – would I rather have spontaneous sex infrequently or deal with having to plan sex so I can have it as much as I’d like (or at least try)? I’m not even sure.
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In The Name of October
October 16th, 2009
October is the month of Halloween which, in my not-so-humble opinion should have just as much lead up as Christmas or any other holiday. In fact, I wouldn’t mind if November 1st was a federal holiday for recuperation (we can swap it for Columbus Day). Plus, local governments wouldn’t need to change the dates of trick or treating. Halloween is a cause for fun to me.
Yet, October is a month of other causes. Most notably, Breast Cancer Awareness but no less important, Domestic Violence Awareness. I think these are both worthy causes and while there isn’t as much attention given to domestic violence awareness, several companies have stepped up to aid in the fight against breast cancer. California Exotic Novelties and Natural Contours donate a portion or all of the proceeds from specific vibrators toward specific groups. In CEN’s case, it is the waterproof, Papillon Massager which is available at Babeland for $18.
California Exotic Novelties, the worldwide leader in the adult novelty business, is one of a very few such companies who regularly give back to the community through charitable work and support of social programs.
In their continued support of Breast Cancer Awareness Month (October) – California Exotic Novelties reaffirms their fight against that dreaded disease. As the industry’s only woman-founded, woman-directed company, they are especially (and in some cases, personally) aware of its devastating effects, and are donating a portion of each sale of their popular “Papillon” massager to Living Beyond Breast Cancer, a non-profit organization dedicated to helping sufferers of the disease recapture their self-image and sexual well-being
Natural Contours has crafted a pink version of their Petite Vibrator, which I previously reviewed. The Pink Ribbon Petite is also available from Babeland for $14.99.
Natural Contours® is donating 10% of the sales proceeds from the PETITE PINK RIBBON™ to Breast Cancer Action.
Babeland has also upped the ante by offering to donate 20% of proceeds from certain pink toys to help fund mammograms for women. The list includes the Layaspot, Form 6 and Smart Balls Teneo Uno. If you’ve been considering any of these toys, now is the perfect time to buy. You can show your support and get off.
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Elsewhere
October 13th, 2009
I’ve been a bit more inspired lately when it comes to posting on my blogs. I’ve also written a couple of articles for EdenCafe including one about cheating and another about my first orgasm. The former was submitted to Divine Caroline and is even being linked on their relationships page (although, in rather small text ;)). It’s awesome nonetheless.
