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This Just In: Playmates Are Busty and Thin

I wish this site were an infographic because it has some interesting information.  In a recent issue of Wired, the researchers took a look at the BMI, cup sizes and other attributes of Playboy playmates and compared them to real women. Not surprisingly, the models have become thinner without losing breast size, while average women have become a little curvier.  The full graph is available as a PDF, which is better than the article itself.

playmate study

I want to simply nod and agree, but the thoughtful person inside me thinks this is problematic when women (and men!) make comparisons to ideals that are becoming further from average. It’s a bit like the economic divide shifting. And while maybe you and I might not be that naive, plenty of people are. Men and women, especially young and impressionable minds, look at the media and don’t realize how different it can be from every day.

I mean, how often do I really look at TV stars and think “they’ve had surgery and someone hand picks their clothes and they’re wearing professional makeup?” Not often enough to stop comparing myself, that’s for damned sure. And when it comes to sexualized images, I think the result can be even worse for one’s self esteem. It’s not just how appearance that people compare. It’s behavior and interests and skills, so while this little study has a very limited focus, I think it’s good that people are finally thinking about these things.

However, the lack of depth with which it was presented does leave a little to be desired.

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Dildos Reviews

Star Delight Clear Dildo [Flash Review]

Star Delight Clear Dildo

Star Delight Clear Dildo

It appears that this toy is no longer available.

My first Crystal Delights dildo was a success, but I feel like I would have enjoyed it more had I been able to use it on someone else. The pretty Swarovski jewels at the end are totally lost on me, unless I display it as a piece of art in my living room. I just might. Although, the blue almost exactly matches my nails.

The Star Delight specifically is a glass dildo with a contoured head and bulges on the shaft. The flared based makes it pretty safe for anal, and while the shaft lacks any sort of G-spot curve, the contoured head was enough to make me squirt within minutes. The bulbs are impossible to ignore, but I slightly prefer ridges for actual pleasure. Six inches to thrust with is plenty, and the glass has a heft to it that I enjoy.

The base makes it easy to hold, and I was able to insert this 1.4-inch dildo with no warm-up and a little lube. Cleaning is easy no matter how you do it, and Crystal Delights includes this storage pouch, which I just love. It’s like a burrito of happiness.

Good dildo? Yes. Better than any I’ve tried before? No? Prettier? Why don’t you come find out.

Crystal Delights Storage Pouch

 

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Dating Everything Else

The 5 Things

Earlier, my good friend asked me what five things I require of someone to be in a relationship with them. You know, those five traits. I think I’ve really lowered my standards lately but not in a bad way. I’m being more fair and open minded. I don’t even think all five of these are necessary, but they’re all good. For example, physical attraction and sexual compatibility go a long way to overlooking personality flaws because, as I’ve discussed, I’m sort of a shallow.

Here’s my list:

  1. Has a sense of humor
  2. Allows me to express feelings
  3. Sexual compatibility
  4. Makes me feel a priority
  5. Sexual compatibility

The running  joke with another friend lately has been how I need someone who I can “tell my feelers to and fuck hard.” Ultimately, that’s about all I need, but I’m not going to be able to have satisfying sex with someone if I’m not attracted to that person. Emotional security won’t happen if I can’t express my feelings — and not just those about the relationship — to my partner.

After always feeling like I wasn’t part of my ex-husband’s life, I really need someone who makes me feel like a priority, both in his interactions with me and those with others that might concern me. Someone who can make me feel like the only person in the world, then, is definitely on the right track.

And there might be someone in my life who meets these criteria in a way that feels good enough for me. We shall see what happens.

 

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Everything Else internet

Fishnets Are the New Black [Saw This on Tumblr]

Classy.

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Dating

Songs I Want to Post

Being Facebook friends with the potential-dude-gone-totally-emo has its downfalls. Like, I totally can’t post videos that seem pertinent to my situation for fear that he’ll take them the wrong way. I know, I know.

So forgive if this sounds teenagery or, really, if all my recent posts do. Dating is new to me. Having sex with more than one guy in my life is new to me. These are not things I as able to do ten years ago, and I don’t even think I’m doing them well now. But I’m trying.

And on an everyday basis, I don’t listen to every song and think “This is sooo me.” It’s just that these two songs really seem to sum up how I’m left feeling after this whole.. experience.

The first song is one that I loved immediately when I downloaded Kelly Clarkson’s Stronger. I was so surprised that “Dark Side” became a single while “Don’t Be A Girl About It” didn’t. It’s catchy and, dare I say, fierce. Granted, I don’t necessarily condone the idea that being a “girl” is negative, but it’s a damn fine way to drive home the point.

If there were any specific lyrics that I thought summed up my thoughts, these are it:

It’s getting old, your ‘poor me’ thoughts
Believe me boy when I say ‘so what’
This broken record thing has got to stop
I’m losing interest in your pillow talk

I mean, it was two weeks, dude! Get over it/me/us/yourself. Grow a pair. Grow the fuck up. Life goes on. I’ve been fighting the urge to post this song on the guy’s wall or my own wall for weeks. I immediately thought of it when this shit went down.

On the other hand, I hadn’t listened to “King Of Anything” for quite some time, so it wasn’t until when I was in the shower yesterday that I realized how perfect it also was for the situation.

Both these women are great singers, but Sara has that singer-songwriter thing going on that I was really into a couple years ago.

You sound so innocent
All full of good intent
You swear you know best

But you expect me to
Jump up on board with you
Ride off into your dellusional sunset

I’m not the one who’s lost
With no direction oh
But you won’t ever see

You’re so busy makin’ maps
With my name on them in all caps
You got the talkin’ down just not the listening

The recurring theme that she doesn’t need to save her hits home because the emo guy actually said something about how “He wanted to fix things/me” as if I were broken. I am not broken. I do not need fixing. I am just not that into you, dude. This guy was sort of an accidental douche. He didn’t intend to be but his “woe is me” attitude meant he wound up treating me like crap in some ways because he couldn’t get beyond his own hurt, which wasn’t really anyone’s fault. I didn’t mean to break his heart. He should keep that thing on a leash.

You can’t mainsplain away my feelings. Just stop talking. You don’t know me better than I do, mmkay?

So, thanks to Kelly and Sara for singing it like it is. Less thanks to the emo dude for his shitty reaction to the letdown.

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Behind [Saw This on Tumblr]

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Giveaways

Under Bed Bondage Restraint System [Giveaway]

Maybe you’re not into couples kits like my previous giveaway. That’s okay. Some people want something a little more advanced. Maybe you need to break out from your routine, and you want to try something new. One of the first items I was able to review was the Under the Bed Restraints by Sportsheets. At the time, this was really the only brand offering such a product, and the system is easy to use even if you’re not experienced. It’s a versatile way to tie someone up spread-eagle or straight up-and-down.  You don’t need a headboard or footboard. Your bed, as simply as it may be, is perfect with this setup.

underbed restraint system
I’m happy to give away an underbed restraint system, this one by brand Tied and Teased. It’s available from UberKinky for just over $40. It includes the straps that go under your bed as well as four cuffs; although, you can swap them out with any cuffs that you prefer. It’s perfect to completely immobilize your partner as their own strength contributes to their bondage.

Still, it’s not intimidating with the velcro cuffs, which also mean you can get out of it quickly.  You can adjust the restraints to fit with your mattress. I use mine on a queen, but it would fit on a full, too.

One of the things that I like about this system is that I can tuck it under my bedskirt to hide it. If you just have a mattress, you can slide the straps and cuffs under your mattress. It’s a permanent installation without letting your family or friends know that you like bondage. You can just reach down and pull out the cuff to surprise someone. It’s.. awesome.

I haven’t gotten as much use out of my under the bed restraints as I would have liked. However, I want to after writing this post. I’m also glad to give one of my readers the chance to win their own set. It just might be the alternative Valentine’s Day gift that you need. To enter this competition, simply use the Rafflecopter form below.  I will collect your shipping and contact information by default and send that to my contact , so there’s no need to contact you first. However, this means youmust use your actual contact information; otherwise, you’ll never get your prize.

a Rafflecopter giveaway

The giveaway will end on February 5th, and I will use a plug-in to randomly  generate a single winner. The winner will be contacted by me  via e-mail and UberKinky will mail the prize directly to the winner. Of Sex and Love is not responsible for delivery.