Comments on: February 2019 Media Recommendations https://ofsexandlove.com/february-2019-media-recommendations/ ..but mostly sex Fri, 29 Mar 2019 05:04:16 +0000 hourly 1 By: March 2019 Media Recommendations - of Sex and Love https://ofsexandlove.com/february-2019-media-recommendations/#comment-43460 Fri, 29 Mar 2019 05:04:16 +0000 http://ofsexandlove.com/?p=14825#comment-43460 […] to April, I enjoyed some quality media in March. The prevailing theme seems to be sex work. I am still reading Revolting Prostitutes, which I hope to finish up soon, and I’ve stumbled across a few more pieces that I found […]

]]> By: Adriana https://ofsexandlove.com/february-2019-media-recommendations/#comment-43427 Sat, 16 Mar 2019 02:45:25 +0000 http://ofsexandlove.com/?p=14825#comment-43427 In reply to Trix.

Also, I’ve heard interviews with Martin but haven’t read her book. Hmm!

]]> By: Adriana https://ofsexandlove.com/february-2019-media-recommendations/#comment-43426 Sat, 16 Mar 2019 02:44:38 +0000 http://ofsexandlove.com/?p=14825#comment-43426 In reply to Trix.

Thanks for the reply Trix. As most of my readers know, I loveloveloved Come As You Are and recommend it often. Tongue Tied certainly has its value, but I just wish it was a bit more consistent.

]]> By: Trix https://ofsexandlove.com/february-2019-media-recommendations/#comment-43344 Thu, 28 Feb 2019 19:20:52 +0000 http://ofsexandlove.com/?p=14825#comment-43344 I loved Stella Harris’s TONGUE TIED: UNTANGLING COMMUNICATION IN SEX, KINK, AND RELATIONSHIPS recently. It’s so thorough, kind, and clearly written, and it ranks with Emily Nagoski’s COME AS YOU ARE as the two most essential sexual health books I’ve read. I was really eager to read MOSTLY STRAIGHT: SEXUAL FLUIDITY AMONG MEN by Ritch Savin-Williams too; it’s intriguing, but a mixed bag. On the one hand, he’s very nonjudgmental of the various men, but the book puts WAY too much importance on PIV intercourse as an indicator of experience/sexuality, and I was uncomfortable with the way Savin-Williams seemed to emphasize the appearance/behavior of the guys’ female partners as indicators of the men’s true sexualities. Wednesday Martin’s UNTRUE really disappointed me, though a lot of the science is interesting. Martin was way too close to it all emotionally, and the way she inserted herself into the narrative all the way through made me uncomfortable. (If it had been marketed as a personal journey a la Steph Auteri’s great A DIRTY WORD, that would be different.) I felt like her sociological treatment of various ethnic and racial groups posited them as the “other” too often, though I’m sure it wasn’t intentional.

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