As a guy I’ve used them a couple times. What? Two times? A couple things come to mind being in your club of going decades without.

a) it’s better like you and Bartenderman have it, with one person you care for; guess I’m old fashioned; “seed at the gate” like he likes it is so way sexy for a Johnny Appleseed Man. I am that man. But the guy should be responsible I think. Get tested and all.

b) but this just in: Many guys don’t really FEEL the difference with a rubber. Honest. I didn’t. I see using one now as naughty and kinky, actually.

I’d say try rubbers as part of sex play; one more cockcentric experience. Guys love anything cockcentric.

And read the erotic memoir classic My Life And Loves on how Frank Harris handled this in 1912.