Comments on: Spring 2021 Sexuality Media Recommendations https://ofsexandlove.com/spring-2021-sexuality-media-recommendations/ ..but mostly sex Tue, 10 Sep 2024 03:15:11 +0000 hourly 1 By: Trix https://ofsexandlove.com/spring-2021-sexuality-media-recommendations/#comment-45385 Fri, 25 Jun 2021 03:50:08 +0000 http://ofsexandlove.com/?p=15728#comment-45385 In reply to Trix.

Ugh, typos from the tiny keyboard I’m using…sorry, I guess ACE just has that effect on me. (I’d pick Chris Blakeley’s Just Your Ordinary Demisexual zine is an antidote…)

]]> By: Trix https://ofsexandlove.com/spring-2021-sexuality-media-recommendations/#comment-45375 Thu, 24 Jun 2021 15:52:05 +0000 http://ofsexandlove.com/?p=15728#comment-45375 I was so enthused about ACE, and I’m sure the more sex-averse members of the asexual population will find it empowering. Chen’s depiction of demisexua!ity felt like an afterthought at best (and much worse in practice). As someone struggling with demisexuality for several years (and more so during the pandemic) I wanted to scream when Chen said that many allosexuals behave in a way that could be called demisexual. When we’re such a small population of the ace spectrum, and people like Dan Savage say we don’t exist, the last thing we need is for the implication that our behavior is a choice because a bonafide asexual Ph.D says so. (Chen spends so much of the book detailing her own sexual behavior and why she’s ace no matter what–which I don’t doubt!–yet effectively erases us with little consideration.) I found it very hurtful, and suspect that other people who used to think they were allo my react the same way.

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