Comments on: Tell Me What You Want

By: Sex in Canada - of Sex and Love

Sex in Canada - of Sex and Love — Mon, 23 Jun 2025 23:03:27 +0000

[…] Canada’s sexual census. Like Justin Lehmiller, who laid out his research about sexual fantasies in a book rather than a paper, Fetner opted to publish a more accessible overview of her studies. I […]

By: Robert T.

Robert T. — Fri, 17 Aug 2018 20:52:55 +0000

What an interesting topic. I like what I was reading from other comments. Love to learn 🙂

By: Adriana

Adriana — Sun, 12 Aug 2018 23:09:37 +0000

In reply to Clara. If you weren't interested in the entire book, he's published a lot of the results on his blog and on other sites where had was interviewed about this.

By: Clara

Clara — Sat, 11 Aug 2018 04:49:41 +0000

Thanks for the review! I’m a fan of sexual ed literature, even if I don’t read it much, and I’m really interested in Dr. Lehmiller’s work. Statistics are easier to understand than paragraphs for me, but I also like the fact that there are conclusions too

By: Adriana

Adriana — Wed, 08 Aug 2018 19:57:58 +0000

In reply to Kalliopeia. Yes, I just loved the stats. THe first half of the book was my favorite because of that

By: Adriana

Adriana — Tue, 07 Aug 2018 10:16:47 +0000

In reply to Trix. So, this doesn't really delve into arousal nonconcordance or responsive desire because it focuses mainly on what the fantasies are and why that might be beneficial. But it's definitely sex-positive and nonjudgmental

By: Trix

Trix — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 23:54:07 +0000

I’m really intrigued by this, since the books I’ve read on the subject have inspired mixed feelings in me. I remember a British book on the subject (maybe Brett Kahr’s?) that made EVERYTHING sound unfortunate (even fantasizing about a celebrity supposedly reflected something the fantasizer found lacking in him/herself–the idea that the celebrity was just sexually attractive wasn’t even mentioned). Daniel Bergner’s WHAT DO WOMEN WANT? has its moments (he’s generally sex-positive, and some of the descriptions are actually kind of hot), but I’d like to see a revision that takes the idea of arousal nonconcordance into account. I’m trix23 in the contest widget…