Comments on: The Number of Orgasms Doesn’t Count

By: Clara

Clara — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 04:09:43 +0000

I came back to this post looking for a favorite and found it! A lot of sex seems to be focused on orgasms today, a past partners have been like that, so I really appreciate your post

By: Zena

Zena — Mon, 18 Aug 2014 03:46:37 +0000

Thank you! This is an important thing to talk about. It took some doing to convince my partner that I can thoroughly enjoy sex even if I don’t orgasm. In fact, sometimes it gets to the point (tired, out of breath, raw) where if I were to keep going to try to orgasm, it would no longer be enjoyable. That doesn’t mean the “session” was a failure!! Also it is so SO true that the stress and pressure of “trying to get there” can make it harder to orgasm, turning the task into a chore, and that’s no good!

By: BlackAsphodel

BlackAsphodel — Mon, 21 Oct 2013 05:56:56 +0000

I am a really lucky girl when it comes to orgasms – as long as I have the right stimuli I come very easily. I like to enjoy the journey and I’ve found that over the last few years the intensity of my orgasms has increased due to me prolonging the teasing. I once watched a documentary about sex from the female perspective and they interviewed a lady in her 50s or 60s who had her first orgasm very late in her life with a man she had an affair with. I remember feeling sorry for her and women who’ve never experienced an orgasm in their life in general, but now I think that as long as the person is satisfied with their sex life, I don’t have the right to pronounce their experiences less satisfactory than mine. It’s just that that woman’s self image was affected in such a negative way because of her inability to orgasm, it made me feel so blessed to not have that “problem”.

By: Trix

Trix — Wed, 16 Oct 2013 16:46:24 +0000

Denis Leary had a routine about that years ago: “sex is supposed to be about tenderness, and we’ve turned it into the Orgasm Cup.” Valid point, for sure!

By: Adriana

Adriana — Sun, 13 Oct 2013 12:21:01 +0000

In reply to Quinn. I can imagine how that would be frustrating, and I recall feeling similar feelings before I had my first, too. I hope you achieve orgasm but I also hope you don't forget to enjoy yourself in the process!

By: Quinn

Quinn — Sat, 12 Oct 2013 22:48:46 +0000

I totally think that makes sense, but I still am so eager to have my first orgasm. Most friends assume I’ve had one because I am incredibly sexual, but I’ve not yet had a partner that could help me with it and I still haven’t figured out much about myself like that. Being a transman makes it even harder because I feel I should have a penis instead.

By: Adriana

Adriana — Thu, 26 Sep 2013 09:07:23 +0000

In reply to Mack. Your last point is dead on!