Comments on: Whose Life Is It Anyway?

By: Clara

Clara — Tue, 14 Aug 2018 04:31:48 +0000

Oof that last line, that shade

I can relate to you. I’m pretty damn single right now and I’m falling more and more in love with it. It’s kinda a party

By: Adriana

Adriana — Thu, 16 Jan 2014 06:52:49 +0000

In reply to Inness. Yes, and such a bummer about it because they make themselves unhappy, too.

By: Inness

Inness — Thu, 16 Jan 2014 06:31:41 +0000

I feel you!

I’m partnered, so I don’t get this exact kind of pressure, but since I’m a woman and 25 I DO get told that I should hurry up and get married and have lots of babies! They don’t care that I’m ambivalent at best right now about being a parent.

I think people just don’t know what else to say sometimes. They have a set script and it’s difficult to deviate from it. Sadly this is a socially acceptable script. Booooring!

By: Adriana

Adriana — Fri, 10 Jan 2014 22:09:43 +0000

In reply to Pamela Pegwell. Lovely enough, when I was married, I got -both- comments about when we were going to have kids and why we shouldn't.

By: Dan

Dan — Fri, 10 Jan 2014 16:37:15 +0000

In reply to Pamela Pegwell. Beautiful post and comment. Thought: What's the point? I tried to talk a friend out of getting married 2 Yes back;as a test actually. He lived with us at the time...having just left a monastery as a 4.5 yr novice monk. "Maybe you don't understand me. This is the shortest...surest path for the salvation of my soul." Wow. He's married...happy...has a kid...gets laid more than I do...is wildly in love. My, my.

By: Pamela Pegwell

Pamela Pegwell — Fri, 10 Jan 2014 10:10:16 +0000

Rest assured that they would still be nagging you even if you weren’t single. I’ve been in a long term relationship for many years, and my partner and I still have people asking us, “Are you married yet?” or “Are you still together?” Somehow how our relationship doesn’t exist to these people until there’s a ring involved. I’m sure that if and when we get married, they’ll quickly move on to the “When are you going to have kids?” nonsense.

You just can’t win with these types. They need to get up in other people’s business to make themselves feel better about their own life decisions. Ignore them.