Welcome to Of Sex and Love, the personal site of Adriana Ravenlust.
I’m a young woman in my twenties, just out of a monogamous, long term relationship with my (first and only) partner. If that sounds like the definition of “vanilla” I cannot argue but I am sexually curious and open to exploration. I have a continuing interest in BDSM which I have yet to fully explore.
I suppose you could say that I’ve seen enough of life and become jaded enough to not believe in fairy tales, happy endings or true love. The romantic in me still holds out hope that life will prove me wrong and I’m tentatively stepping into the dating pool.
Of Sex and Love is a creative outlet designed for me to explore two of my greater interests – sex and writing – both of which I’d like to think I have an affinity for. You can expect here articles about sexuality, reviews of sex toys, opinions and writings of my sexual experiences.
Sex has been an interest of mine for nearly a decade, although I have only been sexually active for a few years now. Sexual health, education, technology and pleasure are all topics that interest me.
Visitors to this blog will probably experience 2 things: I have strong opinions and sometimes I have knee-jerk reactions which are emotional and sensitive. The latter doesn’t do justice to the former as it can overshadow the fact that I like to base my opinions on fact and am open to evolving opinions as I gain more knowledge.
My opinions are especially strong when it comes to human sexuality. I believe humans are naturally both curious and sexual, thus curious about sex. Sexual exploration is completely normal although determining the ‘norm’ when it comes to sex is difficult.
Sexuality should not be seen as taboo and communication about sex can only benefit the masses. Marking sex as a shameful or unnatural interest only does damage and leads to poor decisions because of a lack of knowledge and understanding about sexuality and the human body.
I believe that, given accurate information, most people will choose to make informed decisions about their sexual behaviour and society as a whole does not give enough credit to today’s youth. Statistics show this to be true and abstinence only education is not worth learning – or teaching!
I believe in safer sex and think it is the responsibility of those with knowledge to spread it to those without to that we are all able to make decisions to curb risky behaviour that may result in STDs or unwanted pregnancy.
I feel that sex toys can enhance emotional and physical bonds such as intimacy, pleasure and communication.
I feel that it is no one’s right to judge the sexuality of others. Homosexuality is not a choice and gays should not be ostracized or punished because of their genetic makeup. Furthermore, alternative lifestyles, although different, are the right and business of only the individuals involved and I support all sexual behaviour that is safe, sane and consensual.
If you need to contact me, for whatever reason, shoot me an e-mail.