Someone knocked today. I ran into the bedroom because I was wearing just a long t-shirt which I had slept in. My husband got the door, and I heard a man ask if the was the Ravenlust household. Affirmation given, the man handed over a package and I was rushing into the living room before my husband had time to call my name. I knew what it was.
I am now a proud own of Rock Chick thanks to GoodVibes. I have lusted over this little purple vibe for, literally, years and now it is finally mine!
Sex, like everything else for me, has a lot to do with my mood and how I feel. It’s the same when I order food from a restaurant or choose what to wear or even when to check the mail. I have to feel like it’s a good time. The downside to this is things like choosing when to check the mail have fewer factors and there is much less preventing me from feeling like it’s a good time.
On the other side, being in the mood for sex seems to rely on so many factors. Do I feel physically okay? Perhaps my heard hurts or I have a full stomach because I just ate. Maybe my jaw hurts so oral sex it out of the question. Do I feel sexually appealing? Do I feel clean? Have I recently used the bathroom? Is my partner appealing to me at the moment? Does he seem clean? Do I have enough time? Is there something else I could be doing? Do I even want to put forth the energy?
I know that, in reality, there is no perfect time to have sex. I accept that. Still, I have such a hard time makingthe effort if things aren’t as close to perfect as possible. On another post, someone said “Sometimes you just have to realise that when your hair is sticking up and you’re wearing ‘laundry day underwear’ you can still have the most amazing orgasm!” but that simply is not true for me. These factors always feel so significant to me and, once I think about them, I am no longer in the mood to have sex.
It’s frustrating that we do not have sex as often or spontaneously as I think either of us would like. Time is definitely not on our side either. So why is it that I have such a hard time not being able to accept the reality of things? I’ve always been disappointed by the little letdowns and it seems this is no exception. How do I change it?
We fit together like puzzle pieces, my hip curving into the small of your back, as I lay next to you pondering the ever elusive sleep.
Buzz Bunny
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This is an archived review of a discontinued product.
Buzz Bunny, the “fantasy vibrator” kit promises a good time with it’s 5 in 1 functions. I must admit, it looks good. I considered this clitoral vibrator for some time before I finally bit the bullet and bought it. The price was more than reasonable when it comes to sex toys, averaging around $20. Unfortunately, this price was more than indicative of the quality of this toy.
At first glance, the Buzz Bunny kit is a cute pinkish-purple plastic toy and is fairly typical of sex toys. I’m not crazy about plastic blister packaging, and half-naked porn stars aren’t going to make me want a product anymore. Regardless, the Buzz Bunny looked versatile, a miniature pocket rocket with 4 additional silicone rubber attachments. I think in the end, the Buzz Bunny was a lot of fancy work that skirted around the bigger issue (orgasm!).
One of the reasons that I chose the Buzz Bunny is because the attachments are made of softer silicone rubber. I’d felt this through the packaging at an adult store but passed on the purchase at that time. While the attachments are soft enough to be pinched by fingers, they don’t really feel soft on my clit.
I tried first the rabbit attachment to find that the ear were rather hard, sharp and pointy. If the ears weren’t so long and prominent, I might have been able to enjoy the rest of the bunny more but it just didn’t work, no matter how I positioned the Buzz Bunny against my clit. I was disappointed.
I next moved on to the G-spot stimulator. It adds a bit of length to the Buzz Bunny and becomes like a small dildo. While I was able to reach my G-spot, again, the attachment felt too hard for me, and I quickly gave up that attempt. However, for those who like harder toys against their G-spot, this might work well.
I tried next the flared, penis-like attachment. I had the best experience with this. I enjoy rubbing the head of a cock against my clit, and this attachment simulated that well enough to bring me to orgasm. Although the attachment wasn’t any softer than the rest, I felt that the flared, round shape of this tool worked better with the material than the other shapes.
The nubby attachment and the Buzz Bunny without any attachments are both more like typical pocket rockets, except a little shorter. I actually find this preferable to the typical wand-style rocket. Paired with the flat, wide base, the Buzz Bunny is actually easier for me to handle. This base could also be used to use the Buzz Bunny internally without holding it.
The attachments are supposed to be improved over other toys because they screw on. Unfortunately, this sounds better in theory than it works in practice. The threading on the plastic Buzz Bunny and its attachments is very rough and uneven in places. I had some trouble getting some of the attachments to twist on easily and struggled to find the exact place where the attachment fit. I imagine this will very with each attachment and just depend on how clean the cut is. This idea would work better with a higher-grade plastic or metal.
Aside from the attachments, the package boasts that the Buzz Bunny has 5 powerful speeds. I’m not sure about this. I thought that the concept of the sliding control was to move seamlessly to more powerful settings rather than have recognizably different settings. Regardless, the Buzz Bunny is pretty powerful and I kept it on the lower end during my play.
However, when I wished to adjust the power, the sliding control was very jerky. It was not intuitive at all. I’m not sure if this was supposed to define the five different speeds or if it’s just poorly made.
Because the Buzz Bunny’s attachments are silicone rubber, this toy is not as high-quality as pure silicone toys. It may be partially porous, which means it cannot be completely sterilized. However, the silicone mix means it’s of higher quality than jelly rubber toys. Furthermore, the Buzz Bunny should only be used with water-based lubricants and stored away from other silicone toys, as this can cause degradation of the toy.
Overall, the Buzz Bunny is cute but looks and sounds better in theory. The low-end plastic and silicone rubber makes for a cheaper toy, and this shows with the difficulty screwing on attachments and the hard/shape attachments. If you’re not looking for much, this may be the toy for you, but if you prefer higher quality toys, I’d skip the Buzz Bunny despite its fair power range.
A good friend recently came to me with concerns about his girlfriend and her sex toys. He was feeling a little bit intimated and wanted to know this:
Am I, as a guy, good enough to make my girl have a better orgasm than she can get with using a toy? Is it weird or wrong to feel bad about something like that?
No, it’s not wrong to worry about something like this.
Because you’re only human. I think feeling intimidated is fairly common and understandable. However, taking a look at what makes up the intimidation can help to greatly reduce or even eliminate it. While I advocate sex toys, I understand that some people simply do not like this. This is not about not liking sex toys; rather, it is about feeling replaceable in relation to them. Furthermore, although my examples focus on a heterosexual relationship, these feelings are universal.
Yes, sex toys may be bigger than you are.
Vibrators and dildos may be bigger or longer or thicker. They are often even made to look realistic and next to your natural manhood, you may feel small. But keep this in mind. Bigger is not always better. The vagina is not a neverending canal and there comes a point when size is painful rather than pleasurable.
Yes, vibrators may have more bells and whistles than you do.
Let’s face it: vibrators do a lot of stuff. For starters, they vibrate. They pulsate. They rotate. They bend and wiggle and wave and have beads and even thrust like a penis. Furthermore, vibrators run on batteries or are rechargeable so they may last longer than you.
Yes, sex toys may sometimes feel better.
With all the technological advancements, no one is surprised how far sex toys have come. Sometimes sex toys do just the trick but sometimes a guy just wants to masturbate for a (relatively) quick and easy orgasmic release, too.
Yes, toy induced orgasms may be better.
But orgasms vary in intensity for many other reasons. I’ve had both awesome orgasms and really disappointing orgasms with a partner and with sex toys.
No, sex is not all about physical sensations (or even orgasm).
I don’t want to generalize but for many men, sex ends with orgasm and ejaculation. It’s easy to understand how this can lead to the assumption that the goal of sex is orgasm through pleasure. However, females are different creatures. For them, sex more often focuses on the emotional aspect. Pleasure is also important and, luckily, we’re becoming a society which stresses pleasure for both genders. However, the female orgasm is still one which can often be difficult to achieve. So if you think that sex is all about physical sensation, then sex toys may just give you a run for your money. However..
Yes, all that “other stuff” is important to her, too.
As I said, there is often a stronger emphasis on the emotional aspect of sex for women. The bond you share, the vulnerability you’re willing to show when stripped to the skin and intimate moments during sex are all important factors when it comes to enjoying sex. When these factors are high, the physical pleasure may not be as necessary or may be a secondary reward.
No, sex toys are not human.
I think this is what it all comes down to. It’s easy to feel intimidated when only consider the factor of pleasure but sex is made up of much than that for all people. Being comfortable with your significant other using sex toys is easier once you realize you are not replacable because of the human aspect. The emotional bond, your desire to please your lover, your ability to observe her reactions to please her better, small talk and even awkward moments make sex with another human unique and irreplacable and are why not heteosexual woman is likely to put her boyfriend in the nightstand instead of her vibrator.
This is an archived review of a discontinued product.
I never gave much thought to cock rings, vibrating or otherwise, but one day my husband and I decided “Why not?” and picked one up at the local store. Of course, by “picked one up”, I mean he made me physically pick it out and pay for it.
The concept of the cock ring is pretty simple. The ring is placed around the base of the cock to slow blood flow and prolong erection. A vibrating cock ring has a small bullet that vibrates to give pleasure to both parties. Ideally, the bullet is positioned near the clitoris. I thought the idea it pretty nice, but the application of a vibrating cock ring just didn’t work out so well.
Play is a line of sexual aids by Durex, and their disposable cock ring goes under the moniker Vibrations. Vibrations offers approximately 20 minutes of pleasurable vibrations at the same speed. This cock ring by Durex can be turned off, so, technically, it could be used over several shorter sessions. However, I would not advise this. Durex does not list materials on any of its sites, and I cannot recall if the package said so, but if this cock ring is made of rubber or jelly, then it cannot be properly sterilized and should only be used once.
As for my experience, I found this a bit difficult to use. For starters, the button to push to turn it on was a bit tricky, especially after the ring was already around the base of the penis. It took some effort to turn it on.
As for stimulation, I was rather disappointed. Try as we might, I just couldn’t find a good position where the tiny bullet was actually on my clit. Generally, it was further down my vulva, closer to my vagina. We tried with the bullet ‘up’ in missionary style and this yielded the best results. Several other positions yielded a general vibration around the vulva, which I did not find especially pleasurable. We also turned the ring around so the bullet was toward the bottom and tried doggy style. In this position, I couldn’t feel the vibrations at all. Maybe we just didn’t try hard enough, but I could not find a position that was pleasurable.
From his point of view, the vibrations tickled, and the ring itself did not seem to have any effect because it was rather large.
For its price and size, the vibrations were decent, but the toy was a little loud despite its small stature.
Overall, I was not impressed by Durex’s Play Vibrations cock ring. However, I am still interested in cock rings and might try a larger ring and bullet in the future, which would make it easier to come in contact with my clitoris as well as a smaller ring to provide more stimulation for my partner.
