Fleshlights versus Cheap Masturbators [Guest Post]

January 18th, 2013

Calling all men! If you’ve never used a masturbator before but want to explore this exclusively male sex toy, how do you know which one to go for? Do you go all out and buy the crème de la crème of male masturbators, the Fleshlight, or do you opt for a cheaper model to begin with?

There are a number of different masturbators available all depending upon your preference. For example, one of the cheapest types of male sex toys on the market are masturbation penis sleeves. Usually retailing for under £10, these simple yet effective soft silicone sleeves wrap around the shaft of the penis and come with different patterned nodules to make masturbation a little different. They are designed to fit all shapes and size of penis and can be re-used. Male adult toys in the form of double open ended tubes are similarly inexpensive. These male toys are usually made of stretchy silicone and also come with stimulating pleasure nodules or ribbing on the inside to make your masturbation more varied.

Penis head stimulators work slightly differently to other male masturbators because they target the most sensitive part of the male erogenous zone, the glans. Non-vibrating alternatives come in the guise of a chamber for the head of the penis which is stimulated using a hand pump. Satisfaction for the glans can also be achieved using a multi-speed vibrating sheath. These alternative takes on the traditional male sex toy usually cost around the £10 mark.

fleshlightAlso common are single ended masturbation tubes or cups. The inexpensive variations (normally around £10-£15) come with tight lifelike openings that are either plain, or in the form of a mouth, an anus or a vagina. Usually these 6-7 inch long tubes come with stimulating inner chambers. The tightness of feel can be altered by either squeezing the tube or if it comes with an air hole at the closed end, this can be entirely or partially covered to bring about the same effect. These inexpensive masturbation tubes are designed for single use but they can be re-used with condoms. Vibrating single ended masturbation cups or tubes provide additional stimulation for the entire length of the penis. Available in stretchy silicone for around £30, they also come with stimulating inner nodules but also have the benefit of multi-speed vibrations built in for additional gratification. High end alternatives retailing for over £100 can also be purchased which have over 40 different functions of multispeed vibrations combined with a rotating action.

Fleshlights are also a type of single ended masturbator which come in the form of a torch style tube. Retailing at considerably higher than the cheaper alternatives (prices are usually between £36 and £63), Fleshlights are deserving of their higher price tags and their caveat of being the best selling male sex toys in the world because they are designed to be re-used and can tolerate years of masturbation play. Suitable for all sizes of men, Flesh light masturbators differ from cheaper alternatives because they come with a realistic feeling inner skin (Superskin) which has been observed as being the closest feeling thing to real penetrative sex from a masturbator. The inner chambers also come with a number of different textures to stimulate your shaft with including nodules, twists, waves and ribs all dependent upon the model. What distinguishes Fleshlights from less expensive masturbators is that the inner chamber can be removed and cleaned after use making them very hygienic and re-usable without condoms. Choose from realistic tight openings in the form of a plain hole, a vagina, an anus (Fleshjacks) or a mouth. The tightness of the inner chamber can also be adjusted according to your preference. Unlike the £10-£15 masturbators, a number of Fleshlights are also cast from the stars of adult films for an even more realistic experience. A selection of Fleshlights also come with the addition of vibrating bullets inside to further enhance your enjoyment! The Fleshlight Vagina Stamina Training Unit even claims to improve your bedroom performance by training you to last longer with regular use!

In conclusion, as with any purchase, choosing the best male masturbator for you is down to budget and personal preference. If you are just looking to try something out, one of the less experience variants might be more appropriate; if you want something that feels almost as good as penetrative sex and that will last for years to come then a Fleshlight or Fleshjack could be a better option.

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Yes [Saw This on Tumblr]

January 16th, 2013

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AP Sex Ed

January 16th, 2013

AP Sex EdWhile browsing Tumblr, I came across this fantastic image. At first, I thought it was an infographic. It’s actually an eBook created by a Tumblr user to teach you a thing or two. I haven’t read it cover to cover, and it might be a little elementary for some of us, but it’s put together pretty well, and spreading this information is important — important enough that I’ve shared it on my public Facebook!

Download the eBook here.

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Fetish Fantasy Elite 10″ Dildo

January 14th, 2013

Fetish Fantasy Elite 10" Dildo

Fetish Fantasy Elite 10" Dildo

This is an archived review for a discontinued product.

Where do I start with this review other than to say it looks like a giant unicorn horn? And giant is the keyword here. It’s a whopping ten inches long. It’s a heavy hunk of silicone that you likely won’t use every time you’re having sex or going for a solo session, but it does have its uses. For example, the length makes it ideal for strapon play when angles and bodies mean short dildos just won’t cut it. The slight curve at the end could definitely be used for G-spot stimulation, and the shaft isn’t going to bend or give during intense thrusting.

It’s still a really large toy, however. It’s definitely meant to be used with a strap-on, and I’d recommend a nice, tight one to keep it from pulling down too much given the size and weight. And, in fact, Pipedream does offer a few strap-ons that you might test this with. The only one I currently own is the Sasha harness, which I didn’t much love. With a bit of pulling and prodding, this dildo does fit into the Sasha harness. Even though that harness is quite snug, the dildo hangs down. It’s not perky and erect like some people might prefer. I personally find it a little heavy for my tastes. I think this could easily be solved by hollowing out at least part of the dildo — this also gives you room to insert a bullet if you’d like.

As to whether this one will work with your harness, the Fetish Fantasy Elite 10″ Dildo will need a 1.75″ O-ring. At the base, the shaft goes in slightly, so it’s less wide than the widest point, which is just under 2″ in diameter. This makes this dildo pretty large. Of course, I can’t really imagine someone inserting the entire thing. Assuming you insert about six inches, the diameter at that point is over 1.75″ .

The thickness on this one gradually increases. The head starts out at just 1.27 inches; however, it reaches 1.5 inches pretty quickly. If you aren’t a size queen, then you could simply insert the tip for G-spot stimulation. It works well enough for me. Of course, then this really wouldn’t be the toy for you.

The silicone of this dildo does have a lot of drag, so water based lube is your friend. I’m not a big fan of toys that need quite so much lube. I also slightly prefer the velvety finished of some silicone toys. As for the wrapped design? It looks pretty and really lends a fantastic element to the appearance but isn’t something that sets me over the edge.

It collects lint like crazy, so a healthy soap and water rinse is necessary even before storage — unless you store it in a plastic bag. The silicone feels pretty firm and dense; although, I can slightly bend the head a few degrees to either side. However, the lack of G-spot curve means this might not be the best vaginal didlo. The same goes for you if you’re looking to use it for prostate stimulation.

One aspect that I do like is the base, which will work as a suction cup if you’re not using this with a strap-on. Of course, there are practicality issues to consider, but if you’re into mounting your toys, then the option is there.

So, if you love silicone and large dildos, if you want to feel powerful and really take your partner without a serious need for a curved toy, this might be up your alley. If you’re unsure for any reason, I’d pass it up.

Like most Fetish Fantasy products, this one comes with a silicone mask. And it’s a piece of crap. Silicone is really staticy and linty, so your hair will stick to it and pull. The mask runs really small. It pulls uncomfortable over my eyes even when it’s adjusted to the loosest setting. Plus, the shape doesn’t do much to block light or vision at all. I am still a proponent of my Kinklab leather blindfold and would recommend it a thousand times over this one.

Still, it’s a solid toy with a minimal seam and much better quality than other Pipedream products I’ve tried in the past. I would probably consider something a little smaller from them in the future.

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These things just didn’t work out

January 13th, 2013

I have been putting off writing this for some time. Perhaps I did not want to have to type it up. The previous post was so positive. Maybe if I didn’t write about it, I could still live in the moment of potential. Maybe it’s just been long enough that the details have grown fuzzy, and I worry that the story won’t be as effective, I’ve discussed it on Twitter, though, and it makes good content for the blog.

I met a guy, and while it wasn’t love at first site like it usually is, it seemed like there was potential. The fact that he wasn’t my physical ideal bothered me, though, but I didn’t want to be shallow. I figured I’d push on  anyway. In hindsight, having to “push on” probably isn’t a good idea, but I’d hoped that attraction to his personality would attract me to his looks as well.

So we kept talking over the phone and via text, and I thought I was beginning to like him more, but I was always honest that our feelings for each other were on different levels. At times I wondered if I liked him or just the intimacy of the situation, and I think the latter is really true. I was confused, but I let him know that. I really wanted to like him. I wanted to love him. He was a nice guy.. at that point.. and it would have been nice. Easy. I’m so ready to have someone, you know?

And so we planned a date, an overnight date. We had been talking about sex, and I was also ready to end my dry spell. I think that part of me was hoping it would go well enough that we would have sex and perhaps nothing more. The more I write, the more I feel like a dick. But it wasn’t like this while it was happening. There was no clarity. There was only confusion, and I knew  I needed that date to bring with it clarity. I just had hoped the clarity would be in his favor.

I guess you can tell that it wasn’t. That isn’t to say that it was all bad. We had fun, a lot of it. We joked and we cuddled and we held hands, but by the time we had sex, it was obvious to me that there were hangups I couldn’t get over. And some of those were his hangups. But let me back up.

The major point of clarity that I had wasn’t that I was attracted to him and wanted to be with him. No, I was comfortable enough to do relationship-like and physical things. It’s probably best as a FWB situation for me. Of course, this is not how he felt. I immediately regretted sleeping with him because I knew that his intentions were different and I didn’t want to lead him on.

Aside from the physical attraction, I disliked his lack of attention to oral hygiene. When you spend the night, you bring a toothbrush. Always. Okay dude? And you bring different clothes for the next day, always. It’s not like he didn’t have heads up. The fact that he even slept in his clothes only exemplified how uncomfortable he was in his own skin, and this left me feeling like I shouldn’t look at him. Considering that he practically followed me around with a raging hard-on, it was pretty difficult to finally get him out of his clothes.

The sex itself was interesting. Pair one nice penis with awkward mechanics due to his size and a complete lack of vocalization, and I had a hard time getting into it — or knowing when it was done.

Confidence is a turn on, but a lack of it is more than just a turn off. It’s a deal breaker. As a friend, I want to help people feel better about themselves, but I got the feeling that entering into a relationship with this guy would have been a lot of work, and I’m just not into that idea at this point in my life. Add to is that this guy is only somewhat employed and seems to lack motivation, and I just wasn’t feeling it. I talked to a few friends, most of whom told me to give it some time and get over my issues with his looks. I respected the advice, but I knew I couldn’t wait it out after he sent me this text about how much he missed me and couldn’t get me out of his head. It was poetic in a sappy way. It only further turned me off and sealed his fate.

So I told him where I stood, and he didn’t take it well. We weren’t dating. We’d only known each other for two weeks. There were no three little words. apparently, none of that mattered. He’d fallen. I was a liar. I’d led him on and he’d plummeted into some sort of depression because he would never find the woman for him. On the one hand, I understand he’s upset. On the other hand, it was only two weeks.

Two fucking weeks.

There’s no need to be so emo about it. If I’d known how emotionally immature he was, I think I would have ran far away from the very first.

The Facebook activity is passive aggressive but not directed at me. However, even after saying that we should take time to mend our wounds, he doesn’t get the concept of space. He was texting me every day, and two or three times he stopped to make grand gestures, or what I am sure are grand gestures on his part about how I never gave us a chance, lied or hurt him. In one text, he claimed that he thought he was just what I needed but I was afraid of that.

I am not afraid. I am just not interested, especially after that. Time and again I’ve told him to shut his mouth if he wants to remain friends, but he’s failed to do so. For the time being, he’s blocked.

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Congrats!

January 8th, 2013

I totally spazzed out and forgot to let y’all know who won the Tracey Cox glass dildo. Congrats go out to Candace!

Thanks for entering, guys!

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So I Met a Guy

January 2nd, 2013

And I want to get it all out. There’s so much to say.

I went to a party and met a good friend of a good friend. We hit it off. We talked for hours. It was fun. We barely slept, cuddled a little and talked some more. I was a little thrown off because I hadn’t expected to meet anyone or have a fantastic conversation or cuddle with anyone, but I went with it because I was drinking and you only live once, right? I guess it’s of note that I wasn’t immediately, undeniably attracted to this guy.

But we kept on talking through text and phone calls, which are especially fun and sexy. The attraction grew. We’ve been able to be comfortable and honest with one another, so whatever may be happening is off to a fantastic start.

But — and I have no idea how big of a “but” this is — he is way more into me than I am. He’s already asked me to be his girlfriend. I think, if given the opportunity, he’d say “I love you” a million times. I like him enough to see potential but I am not as sure about him as he is about me.. all the time. At times, I feel much more sure, which has led to what I think are mixed signals.

It’s weird for me. I’m always the one who feels more and more quickly. At this point, I’m usually having to tell myself that I can’t possible be in love. Stop it, Adriana. With him, I feel like I am trying to convince myself that I feel more than I do. I don’t know if I am trying to catch up or if I’m just trying to make it work, period. He’s sweet. He’d be loyal and respectful. He would be a fantastic partner. That I can see already, and if he likes me this much, I don’t have to be single anymore.

Is it the pull of a relationship that gets to me more than the pull of him? Is it flirting and teasing more than who’s on the other end? Am I just asking too damned many questions? (Hint: yes!)

I mean, what’s the problem? I met someone. He likes me. I like him enough to see where it goes. What the fuck is my problem?

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