If you follow me on Twitter or Facebook, you may have seen me mention How to Build a Sex Room, a recent reality TV from Netflix that isn’t terrible. It features designer Melanie Rose, who transforms a room or area of her client’s homes/property into “sex rooms.” It’s fun, silly, sex-positive, and inclusive (there are queer, kinky, and poly clients) show that I binged in one sitting. It’s sexy plus the allure of renovation TV. While Melanie introduces sex toys and BDSM gear to her clients, the audience also gets a chance to learn about devices they may not be familiar with, and there are discussions of intimacy and consent along the way.

As someone who does know a fair bit about sex and BDSM goodies, I recognized some of the specific pieces on the show immediately. If I had taken a shot every time I recognized something, I’d still be drunk several days later. Ha! While I couldn’t recognize every possible piece, all of them fell into categories that I was familiar with, so I feel comfortable making recommendations to anyone interested in the goodies they saw on screen, even if the camera/Mel didn’t focus on or specifically mention the item. 

I won’t name every item, so if there’s something you’d interested in that I don’t talk about, please leave a comment or hit me up on Twitter. I’ll be happy to set you off in the right direction and may even update this post based on your curiosity!

Where to Shop for Your Sex Room

The short answer? Everywhere!

Melanie mentions custom-making sex furniture for her clients. We also see her stopping by the local sex toy and hardware store for goodies, and I’ve purchased kinky accessories from hardware departments in the past. Many kinksters have gotten similarly creative, and I love how Netflix showed this aspect of Mel’s shopping. The viewer can also see that Mel hit up many furniture and home goods stores/makers, and while I won’t focus on those products in this post, the decor elements were just as important for creating sensual spaces for the couples and clients featured on the show.

Of course, you can buy many products from a single retailer if you prefer the convenience and aren’t trying to duplicate the rooms designed by Mel or create a fully customized room for yourself. If that sounds more up your alley, I’d like to recommend Stockroom as your one-stop shop. You’ll find versions of the sex toys and BDSM gear on their site, including some of the harder-to-find kink pieces and furniture. Keep in mind that some of the specialty goodies will cost thousands of dollars. 

I also cannot recommend some of the makers on Etsy for goods such as floggers, crops, paddles, and blindfolds made from leather or suede. You’ll also find rope dyed all sorts of gorgeous colors there. No affiliate links because those commissions cut into the artists’ profits. But if you want to customize your gear or buy matching sets, I definitely recommend supporting artists like these and will include some links to specific products in this post.

Items Commonly Featured in ‘How to Build a Sex Room’

Melanie incorporates several items into multiple rooms on the show, and for good reason. Instead of making you scroll through this entire post to find those goodies. I will mention them right away. How kind of me!

Sex Chaise

Hannah and Wesley with the tantric chaise

One item that came up multiple times was the sex chaise/lounge. Not everyone has room in their home or budget for such a piece, but the show did a great job depicting its various uses. While I never caught which brand made the chaise for the show, the Liberator Esse immediately came to mind. The piece comes in 11 different colors and thanks to the curvy shape, you can comfortably enjoy penetrative sex in any orifice.

Melanie focused on woman-on-top positions in the show, but you could easily lie back against the lower end of the chair so your partner can penetrate you while standing (or kneeling) or kneel to perform oral sex. Liberator includes the Scoop and Headrest pillows with the Essa, giving you even more options. If you find the height isn’t quite right, you can boost it with the Flip Stage.

Cleanup is also a breeze because you can remove the cover to wash it. I’d also like to feature the Black Label Esse, which includes bondage connection points for cuffs. It’s the same design, just with an upgraded cover, so you could buy an Esse and the conversion kit if you want the bondage connections and the more discreet cover. Liberator also sells cuffs that are compatible with the side-release buckle (similar to work belts or some pet collars), but you may be able to purchase cuffs from other companies if they use connectors of the same size.

St. Andrew’s Cross

Mel gifted multiple clients with a St. Andrew’s Cross for endless bondage possibilities

As Melanie explains to her clients, Saint Andrew was crucified on an X-shape cross, and this shape works incredibly well for bondage. You can truss someone up, either facing you or away. This makes it the perfect frame for impact play (flogging, paddling, caning, etc.). I also recommend trying it with a blindfold or gag.

You could build your own St. Andrew’s Cross if you’re handy. You need the base (unless you secure it directly to studs in your wall or your bedframe as some people do), beams to create the X shape, and screw eyes to make connections for the wrists and ankles. Sand and treat it to prevent splinters (kink is about wanted pain, after all!), and you’re set. Dungeon Delights sells a hardware kit, so you only need to source the wood. You could add paint and padding to make it more chic and comfy, but that’s not necessary.

Keep in mind that most designs are angled slightly backward, which allows the bound person to rest on them more comfortably. Generally, the person keeps themselves upright, not the furniture.

For the rest of us, Stockroom sells this one. I like the connectors at different heights. It allows you to tie up your partner as their waist or thighs (thigh cuffs, anyone?), and you could easily connect rope bondage to the frame. As someone who’s short, I also appreciate the mid-height connectors on the top half of the cross.

For something a bit more affordable and for fans of wood over metal, Etsy has plenty of gorgeous and creative options, some of which you can customize. A few highlights:

• A star
• A collapsible cross
• This unique design
• 24-point bondage frame

Pure Plug

The stainless steel butt plug Mel showed several clients is one of the Pure Plugs by nJoy. Folks universally love these gleaming toys for your bootie. You can purchase them in small, medium, and large, depending on your preferences. You can also buy the updated Pure Plug 2.0.

As several people mentioned, a stainless steel plug is quite heavy. Glass and silicone will be lighter and cheaper.

Bondage Rope

Mel left her clients plenty of rope

There were very few rooms where Melanie didn’t leave a skein of rope, often in multiple colors. Companies such as Agreeable Agony and Twisted Monk make rope specifically for BDSM, offering limited-time colors and sets like AA’s Pride collection. Many sex toy companies have gotten in on the rope game, although they don’t offer the wide array of colors.

However, if you want to save some money, practice tying on cheaper rope, or simply don’t care what your rope looks like, your local hardware store has you covered. In fact, hardware rope will often advertise its load rating, so you have an idea of its strength.

I won’t go into the details of rope too much, but most rope is either 6MM (1/4″) or 8MM (5/16″). Generally, wider rope is more comfortable because it’s spread out across a larger area. BDSM rope is often sold in 30-foot coils and frequently cut into 10-foot and 15-foot lengths for smaller ties. If you plan to do any harnesses on plus-size folks, I recommended increasing the length of your rope, but you can also tie together multiple lengths of rope.

Rope comes in natural (cotton, hemp, linen, jute, sisal. silk, bamboo) and synthetic (nylon. MFP. polypropylene, polyester) materials. While natural fibers are often weaker and have more give, making them less ideal for suspension, they usually have better grip. Cotton and linen are easily washed. Synthetic rope requires little care and its strength and durability are preferable for suspension. However, you have to be careful about it slipping or rope burn.

Impact Play

Mel eagerly shows most of her clients a flogger and riding crop. While the flogger appears fairly standard with a wrapped handle like this one. I’ll mention some of the specific floggers in the appropriate sections. But if you’re not looking for anything in particular, you’ll easily find plenty of leather (real and faux/vegan), silicone, suede, and rubber floggers, not to mention some more unique materials.

The crop might be the discontinued diamond handle crop by Sportsheets. Although I couldn’t find anything similar, I love the look of this cosmic crop if you want form and function. You might also consider this two-in-one heart crop and flogger.

Bondage Pillows

I love the harness pillows Melanie used for her kinkier clients. The aesthetic is just -chefs kiss-. I wasn’t sure if they were purely decorative or if she simply used the pillows to store actually harnesses. You could DIY the pillows if you want them for decor only, and Soft Bound Co on Etsy sells some harnessed pillows in different styles.

If you wanted to use actual bondage gear with a pillow that you could remove to use, I’d suggest starting with a leather hog tie and using chains, straps, or even another hog tie for the back of the pillow. Stockroom carries multiple color options. Not down with animal products? No problem! This vondage hog tie is made from vegan leather!

Decor pillows are often 16×16 inches, and you can easily find an insert and covers to switch up their appearance and fit the vibe of your room.

Items Featured in How to Build a Sex Room

Below you’ll find some of the items Melanie added to each person, couple, or group’s sex room. I’ve organized it by couple to make it easy to find specific products. Each section will contain some products explicitly highlighted by Melanie and some goodies that I caught but may not have been mentioned or featured for more than a second.

Taylor and Ayjay

Taylor and Ayjay enjoyed a spanking bench and St. Andrew’s Cross

The first couple on the show was interested in exploring kink, especially impact play. Mel showed she wasn’t shy about BDSM right out the door, and the crew had a fun time getting all the gear and supplies into a basement with no door access. 

Shaped a bit like a miniature picnic table, this spanking bench is similar to the one Mel picks in the show with a few additional bondage points and hooks to hang your tools.

I noticed a black and pink flogger with checkered handle in the finished room that I couldn’t help but drool over.

Another piece in the finished room was a gorgeous leather and chain harness.

Although she calls it a paddle, impact toys with multiple layers are technically slappers. Here’s one with three layers. The first makes contact, while there are two quick “aftershocks” as each of the other layers lands. A tawse has a similar effect.

When Mel takes Taylor and Ayjay to some folks who can teach them more about impact play, my attention was immediately drawn to the rainbow floggers on the table. Taylor later receives a flogging with them. The closest I can find is this rainbow flogger by Firebird Leather. However, Strict Leather has its own take on the rainbow flogger, as does Sportsheets.

The magnetic nipple clamps look a lot like these. Essentially, you pull the knobs out at the sides, place the ring around the nipple, and let the magnets attract through the nipple. With clamps like these, there’s not a lot of room for adjustment, so if they’re too tight or loose, you’re kind of stuck, but you can choose to place the crown, which offers stability that simply using two magnets lacks, with the prongs against the skin if you want.

Finally, I noticed a heart paddle against the wall. Paddles with unique shapes and cutouts can leave fun imprints on your skin.

Raj and Ryan

These under-the-bed restraints by Sportsheets are the exact ones I’ve had on my bed for over a decade. They’re fairly easy to put on, even if without help, and you can swap out other cuffs with the Velcro ones that are included. The company makes an even more affordable set in another line that I haven’t tried but received good reviews from others.

When Mel encourages the couple to talk dirty and brings them into their finished bedroom, they wear contoured blindfolds. Unlike the super cheap blindfolds, these are designed to blackout all light and be comfortable without creating pressure over the nose.

The item that Ryan mistakes for a genie’s lamp is likely the Womanizer Premium 2, which uses pulses of air to create a suction sensation around the clitoris.

As Mel shows the couple the bed, the camera pans over some pink bondage gear, including this kitty cat fetish mask.

I also assume that at least some of the candles strewn about the room are massage candles, which are made from super soft oil-based wax that melts at a low temperature and feel (and smell) heavenly as you rub it into your partner’s skin.

Hannah and Wesley

Hannah and Westley’s finished sex room

Two of the products featured in this episode were rope and the tantric chair, which I discussed above.

Besides that, Mel chose products in hues of red and pink, and I loved the pink leather cuffs she chose for Hannah and Wesley. While most cuffs are adjustable, some wrist cuffs may not fit those with larger wrists. Fortunately, you may be able to swap them out with ankle cuffs, which are designed for a thicker limb, to make it work.

I also recognized a heart crop, set of glass butt plugs, and what looked like a dragon tail whip.

Also, one of the main features of their space is the Barely There wallpaper by York Wallcoverings. It’s adhesive, so you just stick it on yourself.

Orlando and Matt

Orlando and Matt donned leather gear for a photoshoot

During the photo shoot, Orlando wears a leather chest harness, and Matthew dons a collar with O-rings. 

A Fun Factory Manta, a vibe for penises, sits on the table in the renovated room, while a beautiful braided flogger is strewn across the sofa.

Mel also hooks the guys up with a suspension bar, to which one person’s hands will be cuffed above their head. A similar tool was shown in the previous episode when Hannah and Wesley visited the domme who was whipping someone bound to a suspension bar.

Melanie ensures the couple will have plenty to try in their toy cabinet, which includes, among other things:

• studded paddle
• a type of nipple clamps known as tweezers
• multi pinwheel
• ball gag 
• fur tail plug
• bondage tape

Shenika and Matthew

Mel discovers a copy of Unleashing Her G-spot Orgasm in the couple’s room.

The “pulsating” rabbit from the sex shop is the Stronic Bi Fusion, which has a piston-like motion. She also shows them Wand’s rechargeable wand and a cock ring attachment. But I believe she actually gifts the couple the petite version.

The Family

From golden showers to cuddle puddles, Mel provided for this polycule

Lester and Soriya are quite familiar with kink, and they reveal a cage to Mel and the audience.

One of the things that Lester pulls out of the dresser is a metal collar, and while you can find all manner of them online, I do like this combination locking collar.

The polyfam is lucky enough to have a Sybian bestowed upon them. Sybian is the name brand of a type of fucking machine, and it’s a powerful, large, and expensive toy. It’s also not the only brand on the market. For example, the Cowgirl is a pretty contemporary design.

While the Sybian draws a lot of interest, the bondage chair in the same corner is also a beautiful piece of furniture.

The camera briefly focuses on clover/butterfly nipple clamps. I compared several styles of nipple clamps a few years ago, which you may find helpful when choosing for yourself.

The clamps also share the screen with njoy’s Pure Wand and Fun Wand, the former which is known to be an excellent G-spotter. Mel also adds an anal hook to the gleaming hardware.

Another of the kinky goodies that Melanie gives her clients is a neon wand. She does a good job or explaining the various attachments and general sensations to her contractor, Mike. Viewers will find the basic wand, kits, and add-on attachments in various styles.

But she could have explained electrosex a bit more. The neon wand is very mild compared to other forms of electrosex and not so intense that you really need to work up to it if you’re interested in it at all (check out my review for the Fetish Fantasy neon wand). Keep in mind that neon wands are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to kink. You can also experiment with electrokink insertables or even use your own body to give your partner a shock.

I’d also like to mention how much I love that Mel left her clients with leather conditioner to care for their bondage goodies.

Meaghan and Dave

In comparison to the poly family, Meaghan and Dave seem a bit tamer, so Mel focuses on giving them a space to connect romantically. However, she does introduce the pair to the idea of roleplay after learning that Meaghan enjoys wearing different wigs. Meaghan really seemed to transform upon putting on a striking wig and some fetish wear.

Bettie and Brody

Brody and Bettie’s room included plenty of bondage goodies

If you spotted the translucent confetti dildo, you can get your own. It’s perfect to wear with a leather harness like the one hanging on their wall.

One of the goodies Mel hands on the wall is a pink, star crop, which may actually come from a tack store.

Mel leaves an ultra-wide posture collar on a mannequin. These collars keep the neck straight and head up.

The rhinestone flogger that Mel includes matches the couple’s glitzy style, but if chains seem a bit intense, you can get a sparkly flogger made from vegan leather.

Although I can’t be sure, there appears to be a “strapless” strapon like the Share on the dressing room table.

Ouima and Jesse

Ouima and Jesse’s space includes a patterned pink collar with leash and what I assume are matching cuffs. They’re quite similar to this rose gold collar and leash (check out the cuffs, too).

The collar is actually on a form wearing a lace corset. It may very well be a legitimate corset with boning that is either custom-made for Ouima or at least measured in inches. However, corsets are more affordable and readily available if you opt for something mass-manufactured. This similar, lace corset is available in multiple colors and up to 7x. 

The lucky couple also receives several sets of pasties for Ouima to put on a show for her partner. The show focuses on tassled pasties, but there truly are plenty of options, including these fuzzy ones, and fun bows.

Tricia and Gary

This couple got an impressive bondage bed

After exhausting her bag of tricks, Mel shows the couple a strap-on harness that seems particularly strappy. It could be something like the Vanity harness, or this harness by Dominix.

When visiting Mistress Nicci, Gary’s bondage gear includes a blindfold with a strap across the front like the essential blindfold from Babeland. You can get a completely adjustable aviator blindfold, which is similar but allows you to move the eyepieces.

Tricia chooses a lace and PVC corset during this session. For something similar, you might try the Cottelli Wet Look and Lace Peek-a-Boo Merry Widow Bustier Set, but it’s only available in plus size. I also get the feeling that Tricia would enjoy the Exposed Lust Wet Look Open Cup Bustier Set, available in straight and plus sizes.

During the photo shoot, we see Tricia in separate caged pieces, which is similar to a body harness. I couldn’t track down the exact pieces. But if you’re okay with separates, Bijoux Indiscrets makes some nice harnesses (one size fits most), any of which you could pair with the Audaciously sexy garter (no plus sizes). Finally, this halter cage and cage garter cost a pretty penny, but the shining latex is seriously sexy, the zipper is a nice touch, and the color options are the cherry on top.

Mel definitely had a big budget to work with. A spanking horse or “pony chair” as she calls it, could cost $2500–quite a bit more than many spanking benches. It looks like Mel included a bit gag for the couple in the finished room.

Of course, custom pieces cost even more. For example, I found what would be the very scroll bed that Mel ordered for Tricia and Gary for just over $5,000. But it’s clearly well made and can stand up to activities other than sleep, something that the couple’s original bed failed to do. You’ll find plenty of beds that seem like they could work for bondage, but will suffer the same fate under the slightest pressure. Plus, I love the removable St. Andrew’s Cross (which we see against the wall), and it looks like Mel had them tone down the scrolls for the stockade at the end of the bed. But this bed could totally go unnoticed by non-kinksters.

Bondage beds don’t have to be made from metal. Many are wood, some of which have a more rustic appearance than what Mel chose for this couple.

Mel also outfits the room for a leather sex sling. But for those who don’t have the budget or hardware, you can achieve something similar with an over-the-door sling or a sling that isn’t made from leather.

The couple’s finished room includes a country chic antler chandelier, and you’ve got no shortage of options on Etsy. 

Heather and Sara

Heather and Sarah’s small space that required creativity

With Heather and Sara, so many of the pieces were custom to fit into their van, that you won’t find them anywhere. You don’t have to go the DIY route if you don’t want to, however. A sex swing is a great way to save space, and you could use either of the slings listed above. However, this sex swing is a bit more affordable, while a deluxe version might better match your aesthetic.

Mel gifts the duo with a crystal dildo.

When it comes to portable suspension, you’ll need some sort of frame. Tripod and quad frames are common, as are swingset style frames. The most affordable option might be a hammock stand, but the smaller design isn’t intended to fully support the weight of more than one person. Of course, this may not be a problem if one of you intends to stand or kneel. 

BDSM Architecture sells a suspension frame for a bit more, but you know it’s built for bondage activities. The most hardcore–and expensive–option I’d recommend for home use is this frame by Tetruss.

Pulse sex toy mount, which allows you to insert up to two toys. Then, you straddle the shape and rock, grind, or bounce your way to nirvana.

And if you want, you can experience sensation play with a pair of vampire gloves.

Lisa

Finally, Melanie helped Lisa see that sex toys could be useful for solo and partnered play. She left her client with a fully-stocked sex room that could be used for any occasion.

Did the sexy folded impact play toy catch your eye? If so, check out Daddy’s belt.

Fun Factory’s Stronic line consists of thrusting vibrators that are fun to use on your own or have someone use on you. 

This Black Rose Spanking Paddle is similar to one that Lisa will get to play with, thanks to Mel.

In the sex shop, the strange vibrator with the band around it is the Fun Factory Amorino.

You can get your hands on the Starsi sex toy. Lisa also admires a tie-dye dildo made from silicone. But there are so many patterns and designs to choose from when it comes to dildos, so I’ll name just a few:

• Sparkly
• Glow-in-the-dark
• Ombre
• Cloudy sky
• Color changing
• Galaxy
• Multicolored

Many have flared bases that also function as suction cups!

As the camera panned around the room, I recognized a number of items.

Elvie is a smart Kegel exerciser that can help those with incontinence due to age or childbirth.

A breathable gag is a good option for people who want to experiment with mouth bondage.

Miss Bi G5 Silicone Vibrator offers dual clitoral and vaginal stimulation.

If you’re not a fan of oral sex or simply want to spice it up, you could invest in some Intimate Organics Strawberry flavored lube.

Finally, a good lube is a must for more comfortable and healthy sex. It’s useful for people of all ages but may be necessary as aging and menopause change the vagina’s natural lubrication. For that, Mel left Lisa with a bottle of Aloe Cadabra. A water-based lube like this is compatible with all sex toys and condoms, too.

Phew! That was a lot to go through. And I haven’t even mentioned those items that I can’t believe Mel didn’t mention!

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Bettie Page Picture Perfect Spanking Paddle
$59.99 from Lovehoney

This review has been too long in the making and this item has definitely been too long in the drawer since I received it. I cannot wait until I have an awesome opportunity to use this paddle for a play session.

This is one of those items that I showed to everyone as soon as I received it, and we all felt the same way: it’s an awesome impact instrument.

Now, I generally don’t go for items that are branded or designed like this. Sex toys and accessories with celebrities and porn stars on them tend to be kinda cheesy and frequently cheaply made in my opinion. This paddle is not.

The entire thing comes in a sleek, long box that has a paperboard cover. Once you slip this off, the top of the box pulls off to reveal the paddle. If you flip over the to of the box, you’ll see black and white photos of Bettie Page printed inside it.

The paddle has a similar photo of the model printed on the wide end. It fades to black on the handle, which is blank save for a signature. I am not sure if this is Bettie’s actually signature, but the overall look is sleek and sophisticated.

Bettie Page Keychain

While the paddle is held into place with elastic straps, there are two other items in the box. These are a keychain and a collector’s card. I’ve already added the keychain to my keys. The decorative part is round and depicts another monochromatic picture of Bettie. It uses a lobster claw hook, which I like. The card will remain in my box, which I will also use to store the paddle. I am not usually the type of person who keeps boxes — I hate Lelo boxes at this point — but I will make an exception because the design here was done so well.

The decorative side of the paddle is a textured faux leather while the “usable” side is a quilted sort of faux leather. This gives the paddle a sort of plush feel when you’re just touching it. It’s also nice to look at.

During use, the neck has give but isn’t floppy, and this paddle comes with a wrist strap that makes it easy to use. I’ve personally found that the paddle can be used for a light swat or with more force for a sting that will make your skin glow rosy red – if you want it to. This sort of versatility means the paddle will likely work for a variety of users. Even if you’re getting it for novelty’s sake, you’ll find it is good for use.

The material can be cleaned with a damp cloth, but don’t consider it sterilizable.

If my experience with the Bettie Page Picture Perfect Spanking Paddle is any indication, then LoveHoney has done a good job with this line, and I’d be happy to recommend any of the items in it to BDSM and sex toy lovers.

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18" Classic Leather Whip
$22.95 from FunWares

My impact play collection is small but growing. I have a rabbit fur flogger that feels design but isn’t effective at transmitting pain or staying together. I have the paintbrush flogger that is mostly a novelty. I do enjoy Babeland’s riding crop and now I have a very traditional leather flogger. Perhaps I can clear up some misconceptions that maybe no one has.

Actually, it seems that this flogger was made by the same folks who made my rabbit fur flogger — Touch of Fur. This one is much higher quality, though. The 18″ whip is about 2/3 tails and 1/3 handle. I can fit just about two fists on the handle but it’ll be a comfortable fit for those with larger hands, too. The handle is uniformly wrapped in leather and there’s a plastic cap over the end, through which a small D ring is attached. It’s really small, though and I think it could stand to be a bit larger because this will only fit on long, slender hooks. Either end of the handle is secured with hardware, the name of which is completely escaping my mind. But don’t expect this piece to come apart too easily. Plus, the silver on black looks smart.

Even though it’s labeled as a whip, it’s a multi-tailed tool. There’s 12 to be exactly. and they overlap in two and a half rows around the rounded handle. The leather tails are cut with perfectly straight ends and the outside is finished to a shine while the inside of the tails is soft and unfinished. They both feel nice, actually. The leather does not smell as amazing as I like my leather to smell but it won’t kill me.

This flogger is actually the most.. severe that I own. It’s not that you can’t flog someone lightly but it creates delicious welts, small ones albeit, with surprisingly little effort. In fact, its bark (welts) may even be a little bit more intense than its bite (pain) and this could be good for a novice. I like finally having an impact toy that will leave some marks and can easily be felt.

This one is pretty balanced, to my inexperience hand, and aims fairly well. The tails mostly stay together when swinging and it’s not long enough that you’ll have to worry about too much wrap around, which can mean pain in a negative way. I don’t like things that require too much arm strength or practice so this flogger is right at my level.

I don’t even remember if it came with a plastic bag. If it did, I threw it out right away. I also don’t remember any instructions but I’d wipe this with a damp cloth, pat dry and let it hang to air dry completely. The hook, which is too small in my opinion, will work for some storage solutions. Vertical storage really is where it’s at, folks.

My experience with the 18″ Classic Leather Whip has been far more enjoyable than with their rabbit fur flogger but I’d love if it FunWares and similar sites gave more information about the manufacturer. d=

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Paint Brush Whip

This product is no longer available.

The Paint Brush Whip is a flogger-esque impact toy, the unique shape of which lends itself better to novel uses than demanding ones. Because the vinyl falls are sewn in two long rows so they land wider on the skin. It’s a unique sensation which is flogger-like, with a twist. This also means that the weight of this whip is distributed differently and it handles differently than a true flogger. I imagine that flogger elitists would be opposed to this because it does wield a bit sloppier than most floggers (not every fall hits the mark and there are always several which seem to have a mind of their own) but if you just want to try something new and don’t mind that this is more novelty than anything else, the Paint Brush Whip is fun.

Made of a hard leather handle and vinyl falls, the Paint Brush Whip is heftier than most of the other impact toys I have tried, despite its relatively short stature. It measures in at only 13″ in overall length, 5.5″ belonging to the falls – rounded strings of vinyl which are blunt cut at the ends – themselves. Of course, this means you must be relatively close to your target which is not necessarily a con, just something to be aware of. In fact, it could be a pro if space is limited.

While the individual strands have some elasticity, because of the material, there is much less as a whole. Combined with the short length, this toy isn’t the best if you want to be able to pull the falls back and let them snap forward. In my opinion, basic over or underhand throws are most efficient. The paintbrush whip is easy enough to use with just a flick of the wrist. Of course, you can use heavier full armed throws if you so choose. Although heavier than other impact tools I’ve used, the Paint Brush Whip is still quite comfortable and easy to use. In fact, I think the weight of the falls makes it easier to throw and maximize sensation. The sensations fall in a light to medium range. They will sting, warm and redden the skin but they are not ferocious.

The vinyl falls were quite stinky, I might add. They don’t smell like phthalates but they definitely smell like something and the smell was strong. I can even still smell it despite the fact that I’m sick (but it has lessened since day one). It might be better to store this whip with a little space, not locked up tight with other toys which may take on the scent. Luckily, it can be hung with the provided loop, sewn into the handle, so it can be aired out easily while stored. The loop is too small to wear around the wrist, however. Also, it’s sewn in permanently and nonremovable. The loop is also where the tag was attached. It was the shape of a paint bucket with metallic purple paint “spilling” out and was quite pretty.

The leather of the handle is quite firm. Like the slapper I just reviewed, it’s two pieces sewn together near the edge. Unlike the slapper, however, the sewing is much messier. There are loose threads in a few places and more than one place where sewing errors are visible. It seems that, in these places, the sewing just backtracked and went through the holes one more. It’s definitely not as nice looking at the slapper.

The falls are attached through the widest edge (3″) – which gives this piece its paintbrush appearance – and there is an additional row of stitching to secure them. For my purposes, I think the paintbrush whip will hold up well but I wouldn’t expect it to last a lifetime. Where the falls are pressed between the layers of leather, the handle is thicker and it thins toward the opposite end. There does seem to be some sort of reinforcement between the layers in the narrow part (1 1/4″ wide) of the handle, which makes it the firmest part of this whip. The narrow part also has “Sportsheets” etched into it which actually looks pretty neat. Although the leather is fairly smooth, the handle widens just a bit at the end, which makes it more secure to hold.

Although I do not anticipate having to clean the Paint Brush Flogger much, I would simply wipe it down with a damp cloth and pat it dry.

Ultimately, I found the sensations of the Paint Brush Whip by Sportsheets to be unique. I enjoyed using it but recognize that it’s perhaps not the best example of a flogger overall, because of its unique design. If unique is your thing, give it a try but if you are one of the aforementioned flogger elitists, I might get something a bit more traditional.

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Fur 12" Slapper
$32.64 from Amazon

To say I was excited when I first saw the 12″ Fur Slapper would be an understatement. In fact, all of the pieces in the line are so alluring. Never mind that my husband and I decided to go blue for all our BDSM purchases; I certainly didn’t when I requested this piece for review. Getting to know this slapper has been interesting. It’s generally well made with even and clean stitching, no obvious flaws and even a leather strap attached to the handle for hanging or wearing during use. The leather is stiff and reinforced with “spring steel” which makes the slapper feel more like a paddle but, at only 12″ in length, it’s unlike any true paddle I’ve ever seen (and easy to store).

With one side lined in purple fur, it doesn’t look intimidating in the least which made it appealing to me. It’s also aesthetically pleasing but, as others have mentioned, a wider range of fur colours would be great. Currently, we’ll be sticking with the furred side which does help to sooth the blows and reduces the possibility of marks or bruising (if that’s a concern). It still does pack a bit of a punch with harder blows. Compared the Kookie Riding Crop I recently reviewed, the pain is more diffuse and heavier. The fur also muffles the sound. It sounds something like clapping chalkboard erasers together. Of course, you can deal pain-free taps instead of heavy-handed strikes. Alternatively, the fur side can be used to soothe tender flesh, as a light rubdown tool or, the way I’ve used it most, to tickle. This makes it a pretty versatile tool and it allows to make every playtime with the Fur 12″ Slapper unique.

The fur is obviously the draw of this piece, and it feels pretty nice on the skin. However, it is rather short and.. fake. It’s not really as silky as I was expecting; I guess I wanted something a bit more like my rabbit fur flogger, but the fur on this slapper just feels not real. Of course, fake fur can absolutely feel great. I’ve had some stuffed animals whose coats were quite luxurious and I think just making the fur a bit longer would make it that much more pleasurable. The fur on this tool is about 1/4″ long and can be fluffed up by running a hand against the ‘grain’ of the fur but there’s still not much there to be fluffed. Again, it’s not bad, just not as great as I expected.

If you are a fan of bigger pain, the smooth leather side may better suit your needs. Without the fur, the sensation is definitely more intense, and there is quite a bit of sting. Thud lovers may be a bit disappointed but they would probably invest in a different tool (a wood paddle, perhaps). There is some give in this slapper, but the stiffness of the leather and steel combined with over 1/4″ thickness makes it firmer than I thought and firmer than more true slappers. It seems to be a bit of a hybrid piece. The bare side also is much louder, making a slapping sound when it meets flesh.

No matter the strength I choose to exert, wielding this slapper is quite easy. The handle is long enough that I can just wrap both of my fists around it, end to end. It’s thin enough that it’s easy to grip but tapers toward the end so you won’t lose it too easily. It feels like the fur end is heavier and gravity helps pull it down without using as much strength on my part. There’s a leather strap through a secure grommet in the end. I can see the usefulness of this for storage if you have hooks (I don’t but maybe I should throw some command hooks up on the inside of the closet door) but I found it awkward during use. If I looped it around my wrist, it limited the mobility of my hand and I had to take the time to remove the loop. I’ll probably risk flinging the slapper across the room (a la Wii-mote) than have to continuously remove/replace it on my wrist.

Plus, its small sizes make it easy to store. Hell, I could just throw it between my mattress and box spring without a worry.

When it comes to construction, I was pretty impressed. As I mentioned, the stitching is done well. I cannot pinpoint any flaws, and there are no loose threads like I could see on a similar piece I own. The two leather pieces are sewn snugly together and the edges are cut flat. The purple fur is about 5.5″ long and just meets the edge of the widest part (2″) of the slapper. It is sewn (and hardily) on 3 sides using the same thread that holds together the entire slapper. However, the fourth end (which is one of the shorter ends) is loose, which could result in tearing if it gets caught on something. It probably won’t happen, but it’s something that kind of bothers me, and I’d at least like it glued down. Although I haven’t had the need to clean the Fur 12″ Slapper, I would probably it down with a damp cloth. Easy enough.

My complaints about the Fur 12″ Slapper are not major. The cord and fur issues really fall into the realm of personal preference. It’s well made, affordable and, although small, can be used for a variety of sensations. It would be well placed in anyone’s toy box.

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Kookie Riding Crop
$24 from Babeland

This is an archived review of a discontinued item. You can try this silicone crop or Sportsheets crop, instead.

Riding crops are sleek. I’ve never been an equestrian but so are horses. I suppose someone thought the same thing about humans to adapt the tool.. Or maybe not. Just a conjecture.

I do know a bit more about playing with riding cops after playing with my very first one, the Kookie Riding Crop from Babeland. I know that the Kookie Crop is made of a handle attached to a nylon-covered shaft, which is then secured to a piece of folded-over leather to make the tongue. The handle is made of a firm plastic or silicone piece, which is textured and has a lightly engraved diamond pattern, which makes it easy to hold even under slipper circumstances. The braided cover of the rod is secure and neat, and the leather of the tongue is thin, unfinished on the inside (although I’m not sure why anyone would be feeling it other than for review purposes), and sewn in an arc around the shaft with contrasting thread. At its widest, it’s only 1.5″ wide and the thin “neck” of that piece is then further secured by a thin piece of string which is wrapped countless times around the tongue and shaft. It seems like the string was then treated with something to make it quite hard and firm. Overall, the quality is decent. For only, $18, this seem to be a good starter crop that will like a while, if not forever.

I was a bit surprised at the overall length of this crop, admittedly. I expected something a bit longer and a quick glance at a variety of crops shows that many are in the 24″-25″ range. However, the Kookie Crop is not far off at 18.5″ in length. I do think the slightly shorter shaft makes it a bit less flexible than other crops. I’m not positive because I’m quite the amateur in this; it just seems like a longer shaft would allow for a bit more flexibility but it could just seem that way. Either way, the tongue can be pulled back about 30 degrees – which seems to be a good amount of flexibility without becoming floppy – and then released to flick. That flick is definitely noticeable but, because of the length, this method seems to work better, the closer I am to the target and it certainly cannot be used too far away because the crop simply won’t reach.

Of course, I was surprised at other methods this toy can be used. The generic method is to simply flick a wrist at arm’s length but my pathetically weak wrists couldn’t deliver a blow nearly as powerful as using my whole arm. This was the method I had to use to get a good feel of the crop when using it on myself. I guess that’s good news for those solo BDSMers; you can easily bend yourself over and swing away. My experience was that swings focusing more on the leather-only part of the tongue were less intense than swings that involve the end of the shaft.

I was actually quite surprised at the range of sensation provided by the Kookie Riding Crop when used in the traditional manner. It can be used to simply tap, not cause any pain at all. Even my medium to strong strikes were bearable (at least on my ass), the marks outlasting the pain by far. The feeling would be more intense on more sensitive parts, of course, but it could be used comfortably on the vulva area, I think. I found the aftermath provided a sort of warmth and hypersensitivity to the area struck. Actually, I might be more of a masochist than I knew because that feeling is great! The feel of the strike itself feels much like a slap and stings like one as well.

Alternatively, one could focus on using just the edge of the tongue with a quick back and forth motion which feels more like frictional (I had to look up that adjective; wouldn’t frictious sound better?) rubbing. It’s not quite intense and becomes like an uncomfortable chafing after prolonged exposure. Lastly, the handle can be used for impact, like sort of a makeshift cane. The blows from the handle definitely feel heavier. I suppose that is what it meant when one describes “thuddy” impacts. I imagine this method would more quickly result in bruises, and it’s the type of pain I definitely do not like in any sense, although some surely do.

Of course, the stiff leather tongue wasn’t nearly as fun to run over the skin for general sensation play. Other toys with suede, premium leather or even fur are better for that. The handle could be used for penetration but it’s thin enough that it would leave me unimpressed unless there was a specific goal that I am not creatively enough endowed to think of.

When it comes to wielding a crop, I was definitely impressed. This lightweight instrument is so completely easy to use and really isn’t taxing at all. I completely understand the description on the product page when it says it “will have you betting to see which lasts longer–your arm or their ass.” I also love the slapping sound, which makes it fun for striking all sorts of things when a partner is blindfolded to make them jump. There’s lots of potential for mind fuckery. It’s a treat for the eyes as well, leaving quite the skin bright red without much effort at all.

Overall, the Kookie Riding Crop is a steal. It does what it advertises well but doesn’t do much more. I’m not sure why Babeland needs to ship it in a giant, 3″ long prism box, however. It dwarfed the lonely crop inside (which I do not believe was further packaged, nor did it have any tags/info) and I’m sure there are smaller, less wasteful ways to send it – like a poster tube, perhaps.

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