Celebrate Masturbation Month With These Penis + Prostate Toys

May 4th, 2021

Welcome to May! There are a lot of reasons to be excited about this month:

  • It’s my birthday month
  • It’s the first month when everyone qualifies for a COVID vaccine
  • which also means it’s the first time I’ll see many loved ones for over a year
  • It’s the month in which I’ll end my first full year as a college student

Now, my readers may not necessarily be as excited about these things as I am, but there’s a reason we can all celebrate: May is Masturbation Month! While you can keep your eyes peeled for an updated list of sex toy coupons and sales to treat yourself, I wanted to offer a bit of content for the readers of my site who may not have a vagina. This demographic is often overlooked because I’m a ciswoman who enjoys vaginal and clitoral stimulation. But I appreciate all of my readers!

You may have noticed that I didn’t specifically say “men.” It’s part of my attempt to use more inclusive language on Of Sex and Love. It’s certainly a work in progress. But not every man has a penis (or prostate, testicles, etc.), and not every person with those parts is a man. Labeling sex toys “for men” or highlighting the “best male masturbators” overlooks this and can be damaging to already marginalized folks.

Tenga's Eggs are among the most popular disposable strokers

Tenga’s Eggs are among the most popular disposable strokers

So if you have a penis or prostate, this post is for you!

It’s likely that my readers are already somewhat familiar with the most common toys of this genre: toys that you put your penis in. I’m talking about masturbators. This includes the infamous Fleshlight, but it’s far from the only toy you can thrust into. Plus, the category includes strokers that you grip, and well, stroke yourself with. Tenga Eggs are a beloved one-time-use stroker, but, again, there are just so many options to choose from. You can opt for a more realistic pocket pussy or a modern sex toy that’s as sleek as it is ergonomic.

While it’s fairly common to find masturbators that let you adjust suction, newer models include stroking, pulsing, and vibrating modes. I’ve also been impressed with some of the smart toys on the market. I want to give the nod here to Kiroo, a company that sells vibrators and masturbators that can be paired together over the Internet (along with several other media sources). You can pair a masturbator and vibrator, two vibrators, or two masturbators. No other company has gotten on board with inclusivity like this yet!

I think, and often-overlooked avenue for masturbation is prostate stimulation. That is, there are also fun toys that you inside your body! Some people, especially straight, cis men, may feel as though anal play should be off-limits, but I cannot help but wonder what good it does to deny ourselves pleasure? The variety of prostate toys available now is staggering! There are contoured butt plugs, both vibrating and non, probes, and anal beads (all of which should have a flared base or handle to use safely for anal play). Prostate stimulators like those from Aneros or Nexus are designed specifically to hit that sweet spot (sometimes offering simultaneous internal and external prostate stimulation), and the rave reviews show that these choices are often a success!

Of course, there are plenty of other toys to consider, many of which aren’t advertised for masturbation or to be used if you have a penis but work just as well for that purpose. I’m talking about cock rings, nipple clamps, and vibrators (there are now some awesome attachments for wands/massagers. The sheer number of options is much higher than some people would have you believe if we encourage creativity and exploration. And I haven’t even gotten into kinkier toys such as urethral sounds!

In short, if you’ve got a penis or prostate and want to celebrate masturbation month, then nothing should stop you except, maybe, your budget (but as I said, I’ll soon be updating my sex toy coupons page!).

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Fleshlights versus Cheap Masturbators [Guest Post]

January 18th, 2013

Calling all men! If you’ve never used a masturbator before but want to explore this exclusively male sex toy, how do you know which one to go for? Do you go all out and buy the crème de la crème of male masturbators, the Fleshlight, or do you opt for a cheaper model to begin with?

There are a number of different masturbators available all depending upon your preference. For example, one of the cheapest types of male sex toys on the market are masturbation penis sleeves. Usually retailing for under £10, these simple yet effective soft silicone sleeves wrap around the shaft of the penis and come with different patterned nodules to make masturbation a little different. They are designed to fit all shapes and size of penis and can be re-used. Male adult toys in the form of double open ended tubes are similarly inexpensive. These male toys are usually made of stretchy silicone and also come with stimulating pleasure nodules or ribbing on the inside to make your masturbation more varied.

Penis head stimulators work slightly differently to other male masturbators because they target the most sensitive part of the male erogenous zone, the glans. Non-vibrating alternatives come in the guise of a chamber for the head of the penis which is stimulated using a hand pump. Satisfaction for the glans can also be achieved using a multi-speed vibrating sheath. These alternative takes on the traditional male sex toy usually cost around the £10 mark.

fleshlightAlso common are single ended masturbation tubes or cups. The inexpensive variations (normally around £10-£15) come with tight lifelike openings that are either plain, or in the form of a mouth, an anus or a vagina. Usually these 6-7 inch long tubes come with stimulating inner chambers. The tightness of feel can be altered by either squeezing the tube or if it comes with an air hole at the closed end, this can be entirely or partially covered to bring about the same effect. These inexpensive masturbation tubes are designed for single use but they can be re-used with condoms. Vibrating single ended masturbation cups or tubes provide additional stimulation for the entire length of the penis. Available in stretchy silicone for around £30, they also come with stimulating inner nodules but also have the benefit of multi-speed vibrations built in for additional gratification. High end alternatives retailing for over £100 can also be purchased which have over 40 different functions of multispeed vibrations combined with a rotating action.

Fleshlights are also a type of single ended masturbator which come in the form of a torch style tube. Retailing at considerably higher than the cheaper alternatives (prices are usually between £36 and £63), Fleshlights are deserving of their higher price tags and their caveat of being the best selling male sex toys in the world because they are designed to be re-used and can tolerate years of masturbation play. Suitable for all sizes of men, Flesh light masturbators differ from cheaper alternatives because they come with a realistic feeling inner skin (Superskin) which has been observed as being the closest feeling thing to real penetrative sex from a masturbator. The inner chambers also come with a number of different textures to stimulate your shaft with including nodules, twists, waves and ribs all dependent upon the model. What distinguishes Fleshlights from less expensive masturbators is that the inner chamber can be removed and cleaned after use making them very hygienic and re-usable without condoms. Choose from realistic tight openings in the form of a plain hole, a vagina, an anus (Fleshjacks) or a mouth. The tightness of the inner chamber can also be adjusted according to your preference. Unlike the £10-£15 masturbators, a number of Fleshlights are also cast from the stars of adult films for an even more realistic experience. A selection of Fleshlights also come with the addition of vibrating bullets inside to further enhance your enjoyment! The Fleshlight Vagina Stamina Training Unit even claims to improve your bedroom performance by training you to last longer with regular use!

In conclusion, as with any purchase, choosing the best male masturbator for you is down to budget and personal preference. If you are just looking to try something out, one of the less experience variants might be more appropriate; if you want something that feels almost as good as penetrative sex and that will last for years to come then a Fleshlight or Fleshjack could be a better option.

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Grenade Stroker

November 25th, 2009

Grenade Stroker

Grenade Stroker
$20.99 from The Adult Toy Shoppe

Ironically enough, the first toy my husband has ever known got its first use on his birthday. Fortunately for him, he enjoyed it quite a bit and I think that surprised us both. I had only asked if he wanted to try the Grenade Stroker as a joke; I wanted to get him something instead of something for me but I didn’t know he’d actually go for such a design. Maybe I should have. LOL Regardless, I was more than happy to present him with something and I’m glad I did.

Out of the box, I wasn’t quite sure what to expect. My experience with lifelike materials has been limited to one cyberskin toy which was really just a sleeve. The futurotic material was fairly hefty, not like my Pure Wand or anything but the material seems quite dense. And squishy. Playing with it in our hands, it didn’t feel lifelike and he actually wasn’t really impressed at that point. He also made sure to comment – several times! – that it was not realistic at all. After all, it felt nothing like any grenade he’s ever touched. (He has made certain I include that in my review so you all can know how funny he is. I know, I’m a saint). Of course, it’s totally not discreet. Even if someone thinks it’s a real grenade, they’re going to want to know why you have one lying around.

We had fun talking about the Colt Power Stoker for a few days because Power Stroker just sounds funny. I didn’t have as much fun when I went to wash the stroker for the first time. It’s dusted in some talc-free powder(and also comes with a tiny, 5-gram bottle), and I don’t think my skin likes it very much because it did cause me to itch. Dusting is important to keep the material from becoming too tacky and it may help prevent it from being a completely lint magnet but, rest assured, it will be a lint magnet so all your lint will find a nice home on the grenade stroker. If, for some reason, you are not a fan of lint, then be sure to keep the grenade stroker tucked away and only dry it with a lint-free towel (or let it air dry).

As I have not had the grenade handle experience, I cannot say for sure that it’s comparable in size. I only know that the stroker is 4.5″ long and is 2.5″ in diameter at the widest. What I do know is the anus-style hole for insertion seemed tiny, but I was able to easily slip a few fingers in, and it was enjoyable for my averagely endowed husband. I cannot promise that this masturbator will work for everyone but the amount of stretch it has is almost magical. The stroker was still quite thick around his penis.

Of course, using a good water-based lube will ease insertion, and there’s a bit of leeway if you happen to get some on the outside of the stroker; the grenade texture helps secure your grip. He could easily control it with one hand and it could potentially be used between the mattresses to mimic sex more than jerking off. I wonder, though, if such stretch makes it easier to tear (another good reason to use lube).

So how did he like it? He liked it quite a bit but almost immediately he said he wished it were longer so it would envelop his whole penis. The head of his cock slipped in and out of the other side and didn’t seem to be uncomfortable like I expected but it provided less sensation than he would have liked. Still, orgasm was achieved. Besides the short length, it definitely seemed tight enough and there is some slight ribbing. I’m not sure if he noticed during use but he was inspecting it after and we could see a few small ribs inside.

I tried to get a feel for how much he liked it and he said he’d consider traveling with it and would maybe use it half the time he masturbated which I found to be impressive, considering his reservations about other sex toys we used.

Because of its nature, it’s not entirely easy or difficult to clean. The ribs aren’t so much as to make it a difficult job but it definitely needs more than a quick rinse to ensure it’s fully clean. I clean each side at a time by flipping one hole inside out and pulling it over the other end. The material does like to snap back in place, which can result in some water (or ejaculate) splashes. However, it would be much more difficult were the one end closed. I’m not really sure if this toy should be turned completely inside out; I’d err on the side of caution. The inside will be a bit more difficult to dry but it can also be dried using a method similar to how I wash it.

After drying, I toss it back in the back and squeeze some puffs of powder into it. The included bottle is tiny and kinda hard to squeeze. I think a box of corn starch would just be easier to use and I could dump some in the bag shake and bake style.

So, did the Grenade Stroker provide the promised explosion? Yea, pretty much. My husband enjoyed it and I enjoyed that he did. The cleaning is about middle of the spectrum of all the toys I’ve used but it will be interesting to see how well the futurotic material holds up over time (and our careless maintenance). It would be nice if it were a little less finicky but it was a positive experience nonetheless.

The Power Stroker is one of many items available from The Adult Toy Shoppe, the sex toys store that so generously provided my husband with his very first toy!

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