The Rise of Digital Sex Work

May 21st, 2025

At first, Kurt Fowler seems like an unlikely candidate to write about sex work. As a researcher and instructor, he isn’t directly connected with sex work or even the general field of sexuality. However, as a criminologist, Fowler is in the perfect position to research and educate on something that is illegal, even if the topic is often overlooked by academia. Although I have opinions about our judicial system–including sex work’s illegality–I hadn’t thought much about criminology as a field before reading The Rise of Digital Sex Work, and doing so prompted me to consider it. Similarly, Fowler made no statements about his opinion on the legality of sex work. Although he clearly feels compassion and respect for the sex workers with whom he spoke, Fowler’s book is a platform for their voices.

From the very beginning, Fowler weaves his research into a narrative that includes himself. He’s a skillful writer, and this will be more engaging to some readers. Perhaps more importantly, doing so explains how he had to work to build trust with the sex workers whom he interviewed, including them screening him with his employer, and highlights the unique humanity of every single participant mentioned. For those who would rather read a more succinct paper with a more structured analysis of the research rather than relying on the narrative he crafted, this book might not be the perfect fit. But I think Fowler’s decision to write it this way makes it appealing to a wider audience, and that means more readers have a chance to understand the nuances of sex work.

Although the book’s focus is digital sex work in its various forms, physical sex work is mentioned multiple times. This was sometimes the case because sex workers did or had done both, including those who moved online because of COVID-19. It also naturally came up as sex workers discussed their privilege in relation to others, which happened frequently. Much like his participants. Fowler was very open about the class, racial, and even geographic privileges most of the participants experienced. They are whiter and more educated than sex workers at large, and their experiences and thoughts can only be generalized to other sex workers so much as risk is not experienced equally–one of the reasons Fowler suspected a more diverse demographic did not respond to his study. Yet he painted a picture of sex workers as generally thoughtful, intelligent, and compassionate people, something that may be overlooked or entirely denied by those who might oppose sex workers or the work itself.

In general, sex workers simply want to be allowed to do their jobs without the fear of criminalization, and more than one takes on arguments about selling their bodies by pointing out how this is true in many jobs. Multiple sex workers expressed a preference for the freedom and autonomy in these roles as opposed to traditional careers, some of which they’d left without ever looking back. Interference by police and politics was also a common thread in these discussions. In an ostensible effort to decrease trafficking, these people and organizations often set their sights on sex workers, who reasonably seem to think they understand the difference between sex work and trafficking better than those who make and enforce the laws. Similarly, the assessment that these efforts waste the time and resources of both the police and sex workers seems quite reasonable, and readers gain an understanding of the world’s attitudes and legislation through sex work.

Because this book focuses on digital sex work, Fowler dove into the use of technology used by sex workers, specifically screening and communication tools. The fact that workers must carefully balance communicating in an appealing manner with clients while minimizing the unpaid time spent doing so quickly became apparent. Like all of us in the age of smartphones, sex workers are expected to be perpetually available to those who want their attention, even when it is costly or detrimental. The workers expressed their annoyance with time wasters, including those who wanted free sexting and law enforcement setting up traps. However, the people Fowler talked to also showed their savvy when weeding out potentially dangerous or unpleasant customers, and the importance of community to accomplish this was acknowledged repeatedly. Furthermore, the sex worker community was repeatedly mentioned as a source of support for a group of people who are so often treated poorly–by clients, law enforcement, and society at large. It’s no wonder many sex workers do not reveal their jobs to protect their privacy and well-being. Online communities offer a place where sex workers can speak freely and reduce isolation.

It is easy to see how the Internet provides resources that keep sex workers safe like never before but also how the internet poses a risk and those resources have become harder to find due to legislation, which Fowler discusses. One sex worker whose work was revealed to her family and friends (aka doxxing) took extreme care to protect her identity when talking with the author because she knew all too well the risks that come with digital sex work, even though it usually doesn’t include violence against sex workers. As sex work has moved online (in part to avoid COVID-19), those who do the job have had to surreptitiously master online marketing and branding in addition to safety measures. Here, Fowler discusses some of the specific tools used to accomplish those goals. The author always respects digital sex workers as entrepreneurs or freelancers, whichever you prefer, and readers learn how much there is to succeed in the field, which shares many similarities with other digital work or arts that similarly require self-promotion and branding.

The timing of this book is prescient because so many people are more aware of digital sex workers because of the COVID-19  pandemic and the popularity of OnlyFans. However, Fowler found himself at a disadvantage because he wrote the majority of the book before the pandemic, which he commented on. If there were any area where the author could expand, it might be in discussing the increased competition and, potentially, visibility due to OnlyFans and the pandemic, which I have heard about. This would have required more time researching and writing, of course, and every project needs to end at some point. While the book stands on its own without a chapter dedicated to the changes in sex work ushered in by COVID-19, a dedicated chapter would be most welcome.

There is some room for improvement in the book’s organization, which could be streamlined. It is not pithy and is heavy on dialog. Aside from headings, there isn’t a lot of formatting, which could be used to draw the reader’s attention to or reify important information, potentially as chapter wrap-ups. I also wish that Fowler had been able to connect with a more diverse group of sex workers, but there is plenty of opportunity for him–or others–to expand on this work and accomplish that goal. While Fowler discusses specific technological tools or platforms in the book, an entire book could be written on the technology that is so pivotal in (digital) sex work, not to mention sex work advocacy.

The Rise of Digital Sex Work pulls back the curtain on a world that I am sure many people find intriguing. However, it could also be useful professionally, by sex therapists, law enforcement, or politicians, for example, to ensure sex workers are treated fairly and respectfully. It is a frustrating fact that people need constant reminding that sex workers are, in fact, human, and Kurt Fowler has done the legwork to produce a book with academic quality that can be used as a resource by anyone who finds themselves having to make that argument. I recommend it to anyone interested in the topic and hope to see more academics follow in Fowler’s footsteps.

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Welcome to Elust 179

November 17th, 2024

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Cover image courtesy of Countess Diamond.

Since I’m trying–and succeeding?–at blogging more actively, I’m also trying to develop and strengthen connections in my network, especially when social media has become such a shit show. My efforts include submitting to Elust (when I remember 🙃).

Elust is the only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice, or kinky discussions, it’ll be at Elust.

So far, I think I’ve only submitted reviews, and I’ll continue to do that as I catch up on past reviews and, hopefully, find a routine for posting regularly. However, you know I’ve got my fair share of opinions and articles, which I hope to (remember to) submit!

Aside from growing my readership, Elust is a great place to see what others are writing and find your next follow, so please do these folks a favor and give them a click and read!

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Pleasure Me Now, Virtual Vibrations: Bringing LDR Bliss With Blowjob Machines

Tantric Sexual Healing, Awakening Intimacy: A Tantric Journey to Sacred Sensuality

Erotic Fiction

Fern River Cub, Luc listens in

Lexi Rose, The Message: A Short Erotic Story – Part 1

Modesty Ablaze, “A Naughty Surprise” Part 4 of my Hotwife Diaries Audio Reading

Product Reviews

Sydney Screams, The Bivius Alien Dildo by Uberrime

Morgan Destera, TOY TEST – Funzze Black Fantasy Dildo

Liz X, Kiiroo Pearl 3 Vibrator Review: Remote Play & Video Sync Make It Unstoppable

Sex Toy DB, The Top 5 Squirting Dildos in 2024 to Simulate Ejaculation

Of Sex and Love, Heidi

Erotic Non Fiction

Awakening Your Inner Essence, A Tantric Perspective on Reclaiming Our Inner Worth

Kristina J, Humiliation To Liberation: A Dance Of Desire – 10 Years Of Submission

barefoot sub, Dancing In The Dark

Femina Viva, Managing the “feels” when visiting a companion

Sex Work

Carman Fox, Master Escort Communication

Thornhill Digital, The Future of Labour Rights Within Online Sex Work

Elizabeth, Torture Goddess

Sex Worker Search, Sex Worker Blogs via RSS Feed

Oz Bigdownunder, Oz in Dubai. Australian Halal Sausage is Back on the Menu

Books and Movies

The History of BDSM, The People’s Porn: A History of Handmade Pornography in America, by Lisa Z. Sigel

Writing about writing

Ramone Quides, When One Door Closes, Meditation Begins

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Buzz: The Stimulating History of the Sex Toy

December 20th, 2018

Buzz: The Stimulating History of the Sex Toy starts with an introduction to home sex toy parties and the author’s own history as a salesperson. We learn firsthand how she was taught to push toys to bored housewives despite the very act being illegal in so many places. In her introduction, Hallie explains to the reader how she always had an interest in sex toys. And while she could no longer support companies that mislead their customers, her curiosity continued — enough to write the history of sex toys.
She continues on with the ancient history of sex toys (there are some photos of ancient devices and early sex toy ads included), which may be older than you think, and continues to bust some oft-touted stories about sex toys. Pop culture doesn’t always get it right, and our author wants us to know better.
In Buzz, the reader learns about the competing factions that helped to legitimize or, at least, make saleable sex toys. This includes seedy porn store operators, dedicated toy makers, feminists (both those for and against sex toys, especially dildos), mom-and-pop shops, and mega-corporations. Lieberman attempts to illustrate these forces while clearing supporting/promoting the feminist-run stores, a point-of-view I also agree with.
As readers, we learn about original stores such as The Pleasure Chest and Eve’s Garden. We discover the history of Good Vibes, Babeland, and masturbation month and feminists such as Joani Blank, Betty Dodson, Claire Cavanah, Del Williams, Susie Bright, and more who fought for sex toys and a woman’s sexual autonomy. Buzz discusses how seedy businessmen will always be businessmen, even while paying million-dollar fines and sitting in jail. The reader also has a chance to learn how far back the practice of using sex toys goes and how able-bodied people were able to experience sex toys due in part to their marketing as devices for people who were disabled.
Two other opposing forces that the author does a great job at depicting is how sex does indeed sell and how the American public and government railed against sex toys for so long. Lieberman lists case after historical case against sex toys. It’s amazing that any of the smaller stores or chains managed to stay in business while they were fighting the law and competing with unscrupulous competitors.
However, by trying to tackle every angle in Buzz, Lieberman has produced a book that is sometimes confusing and frazzled. These opposing forces are working simultaneously but the retelling is not quite as skillful as I would have liked.
For example, the author illustrates how important sex toys were as a way for women to revolt and yet how divisive toys were among feminists. Lieberman also dedicates time to discussing Friedan and Dodson, and while these women influence feminism and female sexuality greatly, this section seems to veer away from the topic (less time may have been spent on the biggest online retailer: Adam & Eve). Yet, we’re thrust back into it (no pun intended) with force when she introduces Ron Sturman, the founder of Doc Johnson and owner of numerous sex toy stores and distribution centers.
A large chunk of Buzz is dedicated to Doc Johnson, Sturman, his many business associates (including Ron Braverman) and the sordid history involved. It’s fascinating (and I have no idea how I didn’t come across more of this information/history before) but, at times, this book seems more like a history of that drama than an overall history of sex toys. Although the author does frame each chapter with a message about the progression of sex toys through the eras, it’s easy to forget that Buzz is not a book about Doc Johnson specifically; although, I suspect there’s enough history there that one could be written.
While Lieberman spends so much time on the Sturman era, much less time is dedicated to changes in sex toy culture in the 1990s and beyond. I suppose it may be too soon to write about the more recent drama, which I’ve experienced as a sex toy reviewer in the last decade, but it seems remiss for the author not to mention that Good Vibes bought out Babeland while referencing other sex toy news from 2017.
The author may have simply published this book too soon to mention smart sex toys and other advancements in sex tech, but there have been a lot of changes over the last few years that I would love to see chronicled. I suppose that will have to wait until the sequel.
Toward the end, Hallie writes perhaps the most forgiving description of Fifty Shades that I’ve ever heard while quickly (phew!) following it up with a warning that the sex toys used within those pages and sold and merchandise are acceptable because they still focus on sex toys as devices for couples to use and a woman’s sexuality as under the control of a man. The reader is reminded that all the progress we’ve made as a sexual society is impeded still.
Ms. Lieberman ends her book with a reminder that sex toys are important and not shameful, that we should not still feel ashamed about using or selling them, and they she personally will not be shamed. It’s a strong ending after a somewhat shaky middle.
Lieberman’s voice is the strongest and possesses the most clarity when she’s making those impassioned pleas. And I would have been thrilled to read a manifesto by Lieberman that lauded significance of sex toys when it comes to a woman’s autonomy and independence while highlighting the ways that sex toys remain unaccepted and in some jurisdictions illegal.
But Buzz is not that book. The strengths of Lieberman’s voice become lost in the making of this historical tome. Lieberman is not a bad writer, she simply attempted to write the wrong type of book. As a writer myself, I empathize. I, too, I’ve tried my hand at types of writing only to realize that they were not my forte. So while I look forward to what she might write in the future. I am not sure that Buzz is the strongest example of her talent.
With that said, I would recommend this book if you’re interested in the sordid history of Doc Johnson, the way that feminist leaders such as Dodson helped politicize sex toys, and the antics of at-home sexually parties. I plan on reading a similar book titled Vibrator Nation and posting my review of that here to compare with Buzz. Perhaps that book will garner my recommendation, but until now, I’m glad that I did read this book.

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Best Sex Writing 2013

October 19th, 2014

I’ve been a fan of the Best Sex Writing series for years, The most recent edition is Best Sex Writing 2013 because it doesn’t come out every year. This one  was edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel with a foreword by Carol Queen, two names you’re probably familiar with if you follow sex education or erotica — or even if you’re just a fan of other Cleis Press publications.

This edition offers 20 different stories about the “state of sexual culture.” Each of the pieces is supposed to represent the sex writing about sex, but the authors, themes, subjects and approaches are all different. Some of the authors are those with whom you may already be familiar, including Carol Queen herself, but some of the authors aren’t really from the sex realm, which I find adds variety.

Of the twenty stores, two or three really stood out for me.

“Very Legal: Sex and Love in Retirement” introduces us to the dynamics of relationships and sex in a retirement community. The writer, Alex Morris, does a good job treating these people like people, which is sometimes difficult with a generation that the world would otherwise like to leave behind closed doors — let alone discuss their relationships.

“Rest Stop Confidential” was an interesting look at the culture of anonymous gay sex in bathrooms and one of the personal accounts that I found more interesting.

Lori Selke’s “Dear John” is literally a breakup letter to the leather community that has transformed and is no longer welcoming to her. I can imagine Lori might be stepping on some people’s toes, but I think it’s a very interesting glance into the workings of the alt community as a whole.

However, my absolute favorite must be “Lost Boys.” This lengthy piece toward the end of the book talks about issues with homelessness, sex work and abuse on the streets of large cities such as NYC. The writer, Kristen Hinman, takes a look into a groundbreaking study by Curtis in Dank, Not only did this research shatter the illusion of who was a child sex worker — teenaged girls — but it also painted a picture about how many underage sex workers were actually walking the streets. The importance of this, I learned through reading, has a lot to do with the organizations that are leaching money out of the government and taxpayers for programs to help this population, a population that is realistically little like the story we’re told that pulls at our heartstrings. You should really read the piece in this book or the published study because there’s a lot of interesting information to be had there, and it’s stunning that this survey hasn’t had a greater impact.

Overall, the submissions to last year’s Best Sex Writing anthology tended to be more personal or anecdotal in nature. This doesn’t make them less interesting to read, but for me, they’re less memorable. Pieces that are more scientific or studious in nature tend to resonate better with me, The notable exception is Carol Queens’ “Ghosts: All my Men Are Dead.” In this sad tale, the sex educator talks about how the men she met as a queer person who moved to California have passed away, almost all from HIV/AIDS. It’s a somber story but also an interesting look into sex education and rights movements, which initially had little room for a woman.

You might prefer the personal stories in Best Sex Writing 2013 more than I did as a whole. Either way, I am certainly not going to stop checking out these books. There’s certainly going to be variation depending upon what authors and researchers do over the past year or so, and I will always be interested in picking up the next Best Sex Writing book.

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