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3 Simple Steps to Find True Love on Adult Dating Sites
February 6th, 2014
True love is much more that Adult Dating for sex. A few simple steps to improve your relationships.
“What is love…” these famous words from the world-famous song performed by Haddaway form one of the greatest issues in field of gender relations. No doubts, today we have more than one sure answer to the question “What’s love?” Modern science is able to provide you with the whole mess of “technical data” concerning the inner mechanism of adult dating; religion states that love is the highest level of spiritual unity given by the Lord; online dating services providers just offer wide choice of virtual love to millions of adult singles for free or small monetary compensation…
In fact, most adult sex dating fans know that love is too complicated thing to shove it in the frame of a customer-friendly definition. The most simple way to understand that great feeling and get lots of adult fun from it is to live with romance, cause true love always depends on the way you live.
Let’s get to practice now! The following steps will help you to make your romantic relation last longer or succeed in adult dating if you’re one of those adult singles who look for new bliss isles in the great ocean of sensual pleasures:
Follow the “LLL rule.” To find a sex partner for nsa dating is a piece of cake for modern adult fun seekers. However, to find a great lover you need to Listen to him/her, Learn more about your potential sexy partner’s hopes and dreams and Love his real personality hidden behind the everyday-life mask.
Make friends before dating for sex. Before getting the maximum of adult fun from the moments of physical and mental intimacy it would be necessary to start from being just friends. In real life long-lasting romance full of pleasurable adult sex very often is a consequence of warm friendship.
Act natural and don’t hesitate to look around. Suppose, this point is clear to most adult singles and sex partners in couples. However, there’s always need to remind a few small things – just to make the whole picture of happy romance play all it’s colors:
- show your true personality if you want to be recognized;
- stop thinking that your love is somewhere far away from you. Look around – it may be that girl that lives next door to you who dreams of winning your heart for herself. Adult datingis full of pleasant surprises, you know.
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Laws of Attraction
January 18th, 2014
Maybe it’s weird, but I am just not that attracted to people as an adult. I remember being a teenager. I had a different crush every week, it seemed. In middle school, I liked so many people. I don’t even think I could name them. I often thought people were attractive even if I didn’t like their personality. It’s just how it went.
In high school, I suppose that slowed down but only because I was talking to more people online. I noticed attractive people less in person as I focused on the personalities I got to know through chat, IM, email and phone calls.
Even as I watch movies or porn, all of which are full of people that are generally considered to be universally attractive, I find myself looking for people who are attractive to me.. and not finding them. I can even hop on to live sex cams sites like LiveX.com and shrug, unimpressed at what others would find as beautiful cam models. I can literally look at all the porn on Tumblr — and there is a plethora of it — and nitpick every single photo that I come across. I have to remind myself not to do this. It’s just plain rude. (On the other hand, clean your damned room before you take those selfies).
This makes online dating a bit hard. I can scan through dozens of photos and be relatively unimpressed with any of them. When you consider the general lack of effort that most people put into their profiles, you understand how this is frustrating for me. I guess I look at one of two things: do their profiles make me smile or do their photos make me drool? Typically, neither proves true.
This leaves me feeling a little shallow. In fact, my friends haven’t been slow at all to call me such. Do I just have ridiculously high standards when it comes to people? to bodies? to makeup? to presentation? If this is the case, how can I possibly expect to find someone when I wouldn’t meet my own standards?
I guess I am not sure what I am looking for. I’ll know it when I see it, right? It’s not so much something that’s only in the visual. It’s a big picture thing. It’s in the ambiance and the facial expression. And as I’ve found out, I can be wildly attracted to someone who doesn’t display most of the physical traits that I find attractive, and it can take me years to discover this.
Sleepiness and a fever have made this post ramble more than I intended. I shall end here and perhaps return at a later date with more clarity.
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Whose Life Is It Anyway?
January 10th, 2014
I guess I’m at the point in my life where people feel like it’s fine to point out that I’m single. In fact, my best friend’s mother in law recently asked me if I was dating anyone. I didn’t go into the details about the bartender. That’s rather confusing on its own. I just told her I wasn’t seeing anyone.
She went on in a judgmental way about how I had very little time left. It just rubbed me the wrong way. When people say things like that, it seems like there are all these assumptions:
- That I’m straight
- That I want kids
- That I want kids naturally
- That I want to get married again
- That I even want another relationship
All of these assumptions rub me the wrong way but it’s the idea that I haven’t thought about dating that bugs me. I’ve been on dates. I signed up with OkCupid and Plenty of Fish. I’ve thought about clubs and considered dating friends. I’ve tried looking at everyone I met as a potential love interest.
I just don’t see going on miserable dates as a fun pastime. I am not desperate enough to settle like so many people. Sure, I’d like to have more sex, but I only want that to be good sex, amazing sex. This, I will not get after some random first date. Of this I am sure.
So I’d rather be happy and alone even if I’m not living by someone else’s timeline. In fact, I’d rather be happy and alone than miserable because I’m not meeting some timeline of my own. I don’t like arbitrary goals. It’s why I have no new year’s resolutions.
And if you’re not going to take the time to get to know me, then you certainly don’t deserve any explanation or have the right to make demands of what I do with my own time, with my personal life.
I suppose it does no good to be angry with people whose worldview is so narrow that they need to box me in, too.
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Things I Hope to Explore Sexually
September 29th, 2013
AKA part of my sexual bucket list (but not everything).
Threesomes
I always figured that my ex-husband and I would get to some point where we were comfortable to invite other people into our bedrooms, sexually at first and the, perhaps, emotionally. That was obviously a pipe dream with him, but now that I’m not longer married to him, it could become a reality. Not only is the feminine form incredibly alluring, I’m a self person who wants to experience vaginal and clitoral stimulation simultaneously in a way that only two people are going to be able to satisfy.
Show and Tell
Now, I’m not so bold that you’ll see me on a cam site like PerfectCam (bless the thousands of souls who do that have confidence!) but I do like performing for people — visually and vocally. It’s why I enjoy phone sex, and it’s why I spend so much time pleasuring myself for others to watch. In the same vein, I enjoy watching and hearing. The fact that I don’t necessarily mind having sex while others are nearby or I could get caught is somewhat related.
(Me in) Bondage
Part of me could never really let go with my ex. I wasn’t able to submit in any reason because I didn’t trust him to. The thing is, I need to do that. I have to be able to let go sometimes. Sex already helps a lot because it’s one of the few activities where I stop counting, worrying and comparing. I just enjoy. Even activities like video games and reading don’t offer the same kind of relaxation. But when I’m in a situation where I am not in control and I’m safe? I am free to just be. So happy that I could cry, and sometimes I will.
And Serious Impact Play
I’ve got a whole closet of things that I’ve never gotten to use. It’s such a bummer. I guess I just want to get my money’s worth, no matter who’s on the receiving end. A little pain and blood isn’t much when it comes to a lot of pleasure, is it?
Sex.. Everywhere
My sexual repertoire has mostly taken place in a bed, in my own bed. Now, I love my bed. It’s a great place for my under the bed restraints, after all. I want sex in public places, mere feet away from other people, in cars, on cars, outside, on a boat. All the places where I might be with someone who can’t keep their hands off of me.
I suppose it could be wishful thinking, but I really do see myself being able to do most of these things with the bartender. That’s one of the reasons why he’s so appealing. Even if he’s not involved, I’m certainly grateful for the second chance that I seem to have received.
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Bondage Bear
September 29th, 2013
Okay, Sulley isn’t a bear per se, but I like the alliteration. I took this picture as a fun way to show the bartender that I’d set up my under the bed restraints, one of the first things I ever received to review. I liked them but had no reason to set them up when I wasn’t having sex.
This is the result.
Of course, it piqued his interest. And I decided to develop the series. Not only is it hilarious and oh-so-me, but it’s a good way to show him what I have!
