I don’t mind being the dissenting voice. After all, I’m picky and I disagree about just about everything on a frequent basis. What I don’t like, however, is having to write a less than glowing review of a toy I tried really hard to like, a toy that has high scores across the board. Yet here I go.
The Pure Wand, by Njoy does have many positive qualities. It’s made of nonporous stainless steel which makes it very hygienic and it’s sleek surface which is free of any imperfections or seams (Njoy is painted on but can only be felt with a finger, not internally) makes penetration and cleaning a breeze. You can safely boil, bleach or clean in the dishwasher (which I did) and a little hot or cool water adds the intrigue of temperature play.
In fact, when it comes to presentation, Njoy has got it down. The toy comes in a black storage box which opens (via hinge) to model the Pure Wand on pink satin. The fabric lies over a styrofoam “platform” and the Pure Wand nestles into it nicely. The curved wand, with its bulbous ends looks gorgeous and this also makes for practical storage. Plus, the Pure Wand comes with stickers, a toy catalog and information material. Even by itself, the Pure Wand looks like a modern art piece. The details are amazing.
Measuring in at 8″ – from tip to tip – of solid stainless steel, this is no child’s toy. As you might expect, it’s got some heft which adds to the presentation of quality. It weighs in at 1.5 pounds. I suspect if my husband realized how much this dildo weighs, he wouldn’t need to keep a knife by the bedside. It’s a formidable weapon! That’s not its intended purpose, however.
The Pure Wand is meant to be a G or P spot dildo and is designed with a generous curve with two bulbous ends (one with a 1″ diameter and the other 1.5″) to stimulate those sometimes hard-to-reach areas. As I am only equipped with one of those spots, I can only give my G-spot experience.
I wasn’t very familiar with my G-spot when I won the Pure Wand from a contest. I hoped I would be like the many other women who found this to be a miracle toy and when I first slipped it in (with only a little lube of your choice needed), it easily curved around my pubic bone and nestled where I expected my G-spot would be. And, were my G-spot tucked just behind my pubic bone as most resources state (to be honest, I think this is where it is for many women), the review would likely end here. I probably would have discovered my G-spot and mastered it with ease.
If you’re looking for your G-spot, check out my review of Female Ejaculation & the G-spot.
But I didn’t. As it turns out, my G-spot is not located behind my pubic bone but is much shallower. I tried the smaller end and the larger end and rocked the Pure Wand this way and that, but there wasn’t any dramatic response – except when I tried to pull out the Pure Wand too fast and it hooked on my pubic bone. I swore my hips were being ripped apart! Plus, I found neither end was as filling as I would have liked. The smaller ball felt too small and the shaft near it was disappointingly narrow. Although the shaft on the other end was more filling, the ball was too large for comfort. I felt like Goldilocks.
In terms of comfort, the rigid metal of the Pure Wand means it’s not great for thrusting. Even gentler experimentation on my part left me feeling bruised. Although the feeling went away, a few moments after I stopped, I found the experience to be a little painful and too intense on the whole. As others have mentioned, a user guide would be helpful. I’m still not actually sure how you’re supposed to use the Pure Wand which means it’s definitely not a toy for newbies.
I put the Pure Wand away, somewhat wistfully, vowed to try it another time. During that time, I focused on some different types of G-spot toys and did a little reading on the subject. I was finally able to locate my G-spot (using the K-balls) and was surprised at how close it is to the entrance of my vagina. I learned how to squirt and broke out the Pure Wand once more. Although it slid easily behind my pubic bone, the ends missed my G-spot completely and the shaft barely rested against it because of the curve. However, the curve does mean it can be grasped over the mons, instead of between the legs, an advantage over some toys.
I tried to use the Pure Wand with the bulbous ends stroking my G-spot instead of inserted further. Used in this manner, I was able to stimulate my G-spot a bit but couldn’t squirt. I eventually switched to the Curve but was already feeling sore from using the Pure Wand so it, too, was unsuccessful.
Furthermore, individual preferences and circumstances can make some of the positives of this toy, negative. For starters, the weight can certainly be a drain on anyone with joint problems and it can feel a bit unwieldy. Secondly, the stainless steel has a tendency to quickly warm to warmer than body temperature. If you like heat, this is interesting. I found it to be quite uncomfortable. Additionally, the Pure Wand results in lots of wet vaginal sounds. Lastly, because it is so slick, lubes and bodily fluids can make it difficult to grasp in use.
Although I believe my experience to be somewhat unique, I do feel that the Pure Wand is better intended for those whose G-spots are behind the pubic bone and not as shallow as mine. Even if you can perfectly stimulate your G-spot with the Pure Wand, I warn to be very careful when thrusting or removing it so that it doesn’t catch on your pubic bone. With the Pure Wand, it just goes to show that no one sex toy is “one size fits all.”
