I posted a new review for the Deap Sea Pleasure g-spot stimulator over at EdenFantasys.
Deep Sea Pleasure Review
November 14th, 2008
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November 4th, 2008
For years I have been interested in BDSM and have read books as well as countless pages online. I visited chat rooms and became involved in discussions, even attended online events. Immediately, I knew myself to be a dominant but I struggled with this. I have been in a vanilla relationship since about the time I discovered BDSM so I have no had a chance to experiment as much as I would like. Although my marriage has room for some BDSM elements, I am not sure my husband is the person who would be the best submissive for me.
This lack of experience has led me to doubt myself. Am I really a dominant? Could I even be? For a while I wondered if I were a switch but, then, I realized I am not. There is nothing in me that is submissive. However, I respect submission and those who feel that and I can only imagine how enthralling it would be. It’s just not for me.
Lately I have again been considering the part of myself which is attracted to BDSM and I began to doubt once more. I am not entirely sadistic. What’s more, I am more masochistic than one would typically consider a dominant. Again, I wondered “could I be a switch?”
I think I have been uncomfortable with my interest in BDSM because I could not find my place in it. I also think that I will be able to do so in the future. I visited a few places online and while many communities focus on the sadistic Dominant and masochistic submissive, a few places recognize the many shades of grey within BDSM. It was here where I read the words of other Dominants like me who had no desire to submit but who still enjoyed pain and sensation.
I love sensation. I love feeling silks and furs and creamy body washes on my skin. I like the idea of being bound, sometimes. I just don’t want to person who is providing me with such sensations to do so in any way which suggests they are in control.
I have a dominant personality and require the best submissive for me to top while still relinquishing control. And that’s okay with me.
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It’s all coming back to me now
October 29th, 2008
We’ve had sex a bit more recently than usual this week, for which I am grateful. I think we so often don’t have enough time or I’m waiting for the mood to be just right – what I do for everything ,not just sex – and it just doesn’t happen. We enjoyed his days off by being romantic and intimate. I have missed closeness, rather than just having sex. It has been very pleasureable. We also tried out a few new implements on the bedroom including some basic cock and ball rings and Kama Sutra’s Raspberry Kiss Honey Dust (Wow!). Both really added to the experience and I think he is now more open to the idea of more toys and such in the future which is just awesome. It seems like a spark has been reignited and I’m not sure I even noticed it was out!
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Cup n Cradle
October 22nd, 2008
This is an archived review of a discontinued product.
I love dual stimulators, having mostly used rabbits and wanting to expand my repertoire, I decided to try the Cup N Cradle. It’s a reasonably priced and unique-looking toy, so I gave it a shot. The Cup ‘n Cradle is really the first of its type to grace the market. With its knobby G-spot stimulator stemming from the cradle-shaped clitoral stimulator, which rests against your clit with its many soft finger-like protrusions, the Cup N Cradle is certainly different from any dual stimulation vibrator, let alone the traditional vibe! With a remote attached by wire and a vibrator bullet, the Cup N Cradle certainly seems inviting, and its small size is perfect for even a first-timer. Did I mention it’s made completely of a soft, semi-transparent jelly?
This toy seems foolproof. Slip the G-spot stimulator into your vagina, and the clitoral stimulator will cover a wide surface area around your clit to give you increased pleasure over other, smaller clitoral stimulators. Slide the button on the remote up, and you will feel pleasurable vibrations wash over your most sensitive spots. Grasp the toy as its base and apply pressure and movement to your heart’s desire.
However, while the toy may be wonderful in theory, it falls short in application. I found that the jelly material, the position of the bullet vibrator, and the controls were all lacking in some way, and this proved detrimental to the experience.
Although the Cup N Cradle is powerful for such a small unit, it’s best to always use it with fresh batteries. Batteries anything less than new will provide a less intense vibration, as with many toys. With a new pair of AAs, the Cup N Cradle was too strong for me to use at top speed. It was most comfortable somewhere in the middle.
While a strong vibrator is generally a positive thing, the location of the bullet meant most of the vibrations were concentrated on my hand rather than my clitoris or G-spot. In fact, while the bullet did stimulate my clitoris, the vibrations were non-existent when it came to the G-spot stimulator. Many of my sessions were cut short because my hands were so irritated from taking the brunt of the vibrations. Needless to say, I was not an orgasmically happy camper on these occasions.
One of the most noticeable aspects of the toy is its soft jelly material. For anyone who likes their toys soft and closer to the ‘real thing,’ the Cup N Cradle might be right up their alley, and it definitely allows for a lot of flexibility. It especially feels nice over the clitoris and the surrounding area, with the tiny nubs rubbing against flesh. The cradle provides a unique suction to the skin, which is quite pleasurable.
However, I have found that the jelly material of this toy is, perhaps, too soft. I cannot achieve the desired pressure that I need to easily orgasm with such a soft toy. This is especially a problem when it comes to achieving the pressure that many women need on their G-spot, especially when the vibrations are so weak in that part of the toy.
Also, the sliding control leaves much to be desired. I’m not sure if all sliding controls are so ineffective, but the Cup N Cradle did not have nearly the range of vibration intensity that I expected after several uses. It seems that somehow the slider had loosened up, requiring that the button be slid nearly 3/4 of the way up before the vibrator even turned on, greatly reducing the range of vibrations. At this point, the Cup N Cradle is vibrating at almost full force. However, if I press the slide down forcefully with my fingers, I can turn the Cup N Cradle on at a lower setting. This does not make for a relaxing experience.
Furthermore, the slider does not allow the vibrations to increase gradually and smoothly. Instead, the vibrations increase in a rather jerky manner, which can be a bit distracting. I would prefer a remote with digital buttons or another type of technology that offers more precise control over the vibrations of the toy.
Overall, the Cup N Cradle isn’t bad. With a little patience and practice, it can be quite the diligent helper when it comes to achieving orgasm, especially with its strong vibrations and wide coverage obe improvedoral area. However, the Cup N Cradle would be improved with a firmer material, better bullet placement, and controls that are smoother and more precise.
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Where do you want to go in your love life?
October 14th, 2008
I just stumbled across a “sex map,” that is a visual representation of the realm of sex and the fetishes/interests/lifestyle it includes. It’s an interesting concept, albeit one I would never have thought of myself. And, it’s not even the first time someone thought of it.This is the answer to “What now?” when you feel you want to do something new and have reached the limits of your own imagination (or just need a little more inspiration). You can’t say it isn’t detailed; although humans beings are creative so it may still be missing something.
I do have a bone to pick and that is, it isn’t very sensical. I like the of a map and island could really do a nice job of showing relationship between certain interests. However, it doesn’t make a whole lot of sense to put “Vanilla Sex” on its own island as thought it’s only distantly related. Granted, there may be greater barriers for those stuck on the vanilla side but isn’t that where everyone starts out? Therefore, I believe it should have a more central position and that all other itnerests would flow more logically coming from that. Perhaps an island in the middle would be a better idea.
Oh well, just my thoughts.
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Worth the Wait
September 25th, 2008
What is it about having sex after a break that makes it seem so much better?
Is it simply physical? It’s no secret that a body will experience a stronger orgasm after an extended period of time without release. Perhaps sex is better because the climax is that much stronger.
Or maybe it is that having sex after a dry spell refreshes your memory to how good it is. It’s not any better than it normally is, you simply forgot.
Of course, there’s always the possibility that neither of those is true. It could be an emotional reconnection, solidifying the bond once again in a physical way.
Yet, it could be that a break reminds us of when we first had sex. As we become reacquainted, we may go through some of the same awkward moments and experience how it is to (re)learn about ourselves and our partner. But it’s okay if it’s uncomfortable, silly or even painful.
And there’s always the relief. There’s no more worry about when or if you’ll have sex again because this is it. For now, at least, you’ll be satisfied and you can experience something you love. All the time and energy spent trying to have sex had finally paid off.
Truthfully, it’s more likely a combination of some or all of these things, and then some. It’s a complex relationship between hormones, physical pleasure, emotions and mental clockworks. But whatever it is, it can sometimes make the wait worth it.
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The Gears are Grinding
September 18th, 2008
I’m writing articles and reviews in the back of my mind. In the mean time, I thought I’d share with you a cycle I notice that I’m in. It seems that the less I have sex, the less I think about it and the less I want to have it. The also seems to be true; the more I have sex, the more I want it and the more I think about it.
It’s sort of a curious trend but not without it’s logic. The less time I spend having sex, the less time I think about having sex and the further away from the idea of sex I grow. The less time I think about sex, the more I spend thinking about other things and the more I concentrate on other subjects, the more subjects arise to keep my attention. As my mind distances itself from the subject, my body does, too which is a fair assessment when you consider that female arousal and sexuality is mostly mentally based.
On the other hand, the more time I spend having sex, the closer my mind is to the issue and it will be more easily aroused to continue having sex. The effect my mind has on my body is obvious. I’m aroused more easily and quicker to accept sex. When sex takes up a larger part of my mind, other subjects are forced out and I think of it even more.
The one thing I find interesting is that these trends don’t necessarily have a correlation with masturbation quantities although quality might be something different. If I am not having sex, I might be more likely to masturbate but if I’m not thinking about sex at all, I may be less likely to engage in self stimulation. The same lack of trend is apparent when I am having sex. An increase in sex may mean an increase in general arousal and thus more masturbation or it may mean that I’m being satisfied more and thus masturbate less.
I think the difference here is in purpose of masturbation. Generally, it’s just done to get off; it’s a mechanical motion rather than a passionate or emotional one. While self gratifying, it isn’t necessarily satisfying and I usually see it more as work than play time. Of course, this changes when I have more time and space and can make it more of an experience, I will go above and beyond the call of duty but this is not all the time.
It’s interesting to see how these trends and even the lack of trends about masturbation are so heavily connected to my mind. Of course, considering how deeply rooted in mentality female sexuality and orgasm is (which is another topic for another time), I shouldn’t be surprised.
