Lelo Massage Candle

September 29th, 2011

When it comes to the design of Lelo’s massage candles, they’re really quite solid. Each candle sits in a black ceramic (I think) glass that is just a tiny bit translucent. The candle has a metal lid with a looped handle on top. The handle is made of an amber-colored plastic that, in my opinion, is the low point of the design. It’s probably just because it’s not my favorite color.

When you first open the candle, there is a piece of foam with an attached ribbon. I’m not entirely sure what functions this serves. Perhaps it helps to seal the easily melted wax in place? Or keeps the scent for longer? It’s a bit like the cotton wad at the top of a pill bottle.

The wax itself is soft and white. It’s not difficult rub some off with a finger but it is noticeably more firm than any other massage candle I’ve tried. This means that you will have to burn the candle either hotter or longer than others and it’s peculiar, to say the least. However, perhaps Lelo wanted to stress the longer burn time over the massage properties. There’s certainly a balance to be achieved and I think this product just missed the mark.

The scent I requested to review was vanilla & creme de cacao. I’m not exactly sure what that should smell like. Red velvet cake, maybe? I’m also not entirely sure how to describe what it does smell like. The unlit candle isn’t pleasant in the least. After lighting, it smells better and I can detect the vanilla.. but it almost smells like spoiled caked batter. It’s almost like something snuck in there with the good smell.

Even if I loved the smell, I’d still have to complain because it’s virtually impossible to detect unless I hold the candle right under my nose. It doesn’t waft through the air. It’s nearly impossible to detect.

Perhaps Lelo has still created a product that works well even if it doesn’t smell amazing, you ask? No, they didn’t. I don’t know what to say about this one but I lit the candle to melt before I started writing this review and even after letting it burn for several minutes, there’s barely enough wax melted to give a handle massage, let alone a full body one. I can also feel that the wax is much hotter than other candles and I suspect it burns so hot that the wax is literally melting away rather than melting into oil. Plus, the candle really doesn’t burn evenly. There’s still plenty of wax on the sides.

The cylindrical container, while cute, isn’t actually ideal for pouring what oil there it. That’s why I have drip lines of wax down the side. You have to pour it directly into your hand and risk burning to avoid spilling. It’s kind of a crappy choice, in my opinion, but my furniture is more expensive than my skin so there’s my choice.

Unfortunately, the list of moisturizing ingredients doesn’t include aloe –even though it does include vitamin E, soy wax, shea butter and apricot kernel oil– so I can’t use this handle to heal the wounds it causes. Just kidding. It’s not that hot.

If you’re patient enough to wait and then to use this too-hot product, you’ll probably still be disappointed. It’s probably the greasiest feeling massage product I’ve ever used. It rubs into the skin quickly and has a thick feeling that actually seems to cause drag. Lelo’s massage candles really make me want to wash my skin as quickly as possible.

I can’t wait to burn this up so I can put something useful, like pennies, in the container. Other than that, there is not a single redeeming quality about the Lelo massage candles.

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Pleasurists Edition 149

September 27th, 2011


Oh So Sexy Peace IV by Sognatore-Turchese
Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow our RSS Feed and Twitter.

Did you miss Pleasurists 148? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists 150? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday September 18th @ 11:59pm Pacific.

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  • Tenga Egg by Kate

    So you can pop a tenga egg over the head of a hitachi. ! It’s kind of awesome. I did mine inside out, so the texture was on the outside. It’s kind of like being fucked by a marshmallow.

    In a good way.

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BSoft Burgundy

September 23rd, 2011

To say that I like the new Bsoft rather than the original would be a drastic understatement, I think. Yet, I’m not entirely sure why I like it so much better.

Perhaps it is because the exterior is now coated in a super silky silicone that feels a little less.. clinical than the hard, smooth plastic of the first go-round. It’s definitely friendlier, somehow. It also seems to lessen the feeling that this is a hollow piece of crap. The super light and hollow feeling of the original was a let-down. Now, a sex toy doesn’t need to be heavy to work well but it just cheapened the feel.

While the shapes are definitely related, there are some definite improvements. The ridge on the bottom of the new Bsoft is more pronounced and runs the entire length of the bottom of the toy, rather than flattening out toward the end. In use, I find this makes it much easier to apply pressure the way I like; however, the tapered bottom still fits well between labia.

The old model had three buttons and this uses the bubbly buttons like on the BCurious. I like the buttons. They’re easy to find, are surrounded by an LED light and made an audible clicking noise when pushed. Great feedback there. Of course, one button servers as a master on/off while the other pages through settings so it’s not as intuitive as it could be but, hey, at least you can turn it off quickly.

The vibration settings on this one include three steady modes and four varieties of pulsation. One’s really quick, and the other is one of those buzz-buzz-buzzzz types but they’re kind of forgettable, in my opinion. I believe I wound up using the highest constant vibration setting and, let it be known, that this setting isn’t that high. For example, I’m still more impressed by the vibration of BSwish’s original bullet and, like many toys, the new Bsoft has moderately shallow vibrations that only get more shallow as you turn it up. Still, they don’t feel as shallow and empty as the original.

I think it has to do with the way the silicone transmits them and all that the new Bsoft uses its real estate better. What I mean by that is it’s not as big and hulking as the original (Kayla has some pics here). Although they both seem to be the same length (I no longer have my original to verify), the second edition is just so much more compact. There’s not as much surface space to weaken the vibrations. Even though they’re clearly focused at the tip, away from the button, you can still feel them on the other end. It’s also much easier to wield. The bottom line, for me, is that the new Bsoft can get me off. Sure, not without some work, but its leaps and bounds better than the other.

For the strength of this toy, I do find the noise level to be a little high. Not wake-the-dead high but hmm-that’s-a-little-loud high.

I also like the design better. You can get it in a burgundy, like mine, or a dark blue with burgundy details. One improvement over the design is the location of the USB port. It used to be on the end of the toy with an oddly angled cover that rarely stayed in place. It’s been moved to the side of the vibrator with a flat port cover that lies flush with the toy. It sits in place much better and makes cleaning so much more easy!

While this sophomore attempt is a definite improvement, and I like it far more than the BCurious as well, it’s not the toy I’m going to reach for by default. Still, it’s also not one of those toys that I’ll never reach for again. How’s that for middle ground?

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I Like It Hard

September 19th, 2011

I have no hard and fast rule about my sex toys. Penises are always better hard but sex toys? Eh, whatever. I love me some super soft Vixskin but I’m also a huge fan of glass. They’re all sorts of rock hard but not quite as unwieldy as metal toys. Great for temperature play and the rigidity makes it oh-so-easy to hit the right spot without a lot of pressure of effort. I’m kind of a lazy masturbator so I like that. Don’t judge me.

I bet I’d like stone, too, and I’ve been dying for a chance to try some wood before I die. That won’t happen any time soon, okay guys? But glass.. glass is beautiful. Glass is a work of freaking art and I literally own glass dildos that I want to display on the mantel.

Yea, life is pretty sweet.

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Electrifying

September 15th, 2011

If you’re on the hunt for any BDSM or kink gear, consider ordering through my Stockroom Affiliate link. There’s an affiliate contest going on right now and if three of you order the Neon Wand, a super-affordable violet wand, or if I get over $600 in sales, I’ll win a wand myself. I can’t deny, it looks pretty badass! I don’t think I’ll get near qualifying but if you’re going to be doing some shopping anyway, help us both out!

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We Vibe Tango Giveaway

September 13th, 2011

I was thoroughly impressed with the depth of my WeVibe II–that is, you know, before I broke it. I actually won a replacement so I’m super happy about that. I was just as impressed with the depth of the vibrations that the WeVibe Tango boasted. While not the strongest vibrator ever, the deep vibrations really resonated with me, both physically and mentally. It’s weird, I want to let you know how much I like those toys but apparently I haven’t reviewed either of them on my blog.

WeVibe Tango

Suffice it to say that I liked the toys so much that I want you to have one of them. Specifically, Funwares is offering a WeVibe Tango to one of my visitors. This tiny, lipstick style vibrator offers deeper vibrators, a unique magnetic charging system and comes with its own satin bag for storage.

If you’d like to get your hands on your very own We-Vibe Tango, keep reading!

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This giveaway will remain open until September 30 and is open generally worldwide so American, Canadian, British and Australian residents can enter!

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20/20

September 11th, 2011

As I was listening to a random song on the radio, the crooner predicted that his girlfriend would leave him at the encouragement of her friends, who never saw anything in him. I was often in her position, and still am to be honest. I find myself defending my ex-husband to my friends. Sure, he did some stupid things, worthy of some sort of douchebag award. Am I disenchanted with certain aspects of his personality after time apart? Of course. But was there no reason to love him, nothing good to see in him? I could never honestly say that and we all know how much I despise liars, after having been married to one.

Still, if there is one thing I regret about my marriage and relationship leading up to it, it is not listening to the advice of my friends–none of whom liked my husband and none of whom like him any more now. That isn’t to say that I would have dumped him or even that I wouldn’t have married him but my friends were not biased with their affection for him (and not they’re completely biased by their affection for me, the person he hurt) and they could more easily see some things.

Perhaps, had I noticed how he tended to be immature and quit and had I taken into account how little of the real world he had had to deal with and how someone or something had always provided for him, I would have viewed things differently. Perhaps I could have acted in ways that would have been less bothersome to him or less triggering of his particular idiosyncrasies.

Or maybe I just would have pushed for counseling, before and during our marriage, to ensure a stable relationship. Maybe none of this would have made any difference. Perhaps he would give up anyway. Perhaps I could be nothing but the pursuer in our relationship, pushing him even further from me. I guess that’s why they say it doesn’t pay to ask “What If?” but I would disagree. After all, aren’t these the very questions that help us from making the same mistakes in the future?

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